Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that often occurs when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup, or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and know the meaning.

Dreaming of your ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex-lovers are quite common for individuals who have gone through painful breakups and still have lingering feelings.

Since there is no universal meaning of dreams about an ex-partner or lover, it is important that you look at your specific situation from your own context. The following article will help guide you to some different interpretations that these dreams could mean, but you are ultimately the one who has to decide the meaning of your dream.

What Does It Mean When You Dream About An Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is visiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming of being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex-lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex-partner had that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex-boyfriend that was great with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually, people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period when life was “more straightforward.” Sometimes that period will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex-does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them.”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually, these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you that you need to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

Read This: 11 Reasons Why You Have Dreams About Your Ex

Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex-proposing or even marrying an ex-boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without actually expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they actually felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of one’s feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex, there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually, it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also say that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new, then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex- partner may signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship, it is important to look at the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Are you are convinced that you are meant to be with your ex? It is important to remember that you broke up for a reason. Getting back together will not solve these issues unless you change the root of the problem. This book by Mike Fiore, the creator of best selling “Text Your Romance Back Into Your Life,” is a great option for people who are looking to get the romance back into their lives.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship, and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually, these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have to your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more – People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship, and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex-meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex-partner does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can say you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened to you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex-lover are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are no signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

If you have ever had a cheating dream make sure you read this article: Cheating Dreams – What They Mean

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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for Dream Stop and has been working in the field of dreams for the past decade. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. These interpretations are for entertainment purposes only. Stephen's interpretations should be considered an opinion, not professional advice.


  1. natalie wright on

    I literally just woke from a dream where I left a councillor have session ..having been asked one specific question from counsellor. .what have I learnt that’s be efiitrec me from the group. .(it was group councelling), I said..I know I’m a survivor . I no longer drink and or patty hard. .I then left the session and e dedicated up somehow at posh hotel where there was a party..at this party of different room..ALL my exes were there..in different rooms 3 exes.. one flirted like crazy with me, then said he should stop befor another ex sees a d gets mad..and then he proceeded to running and pretending to jump through the window ..
    The second was trying to pull me and cuddle me ..I had to keep saying g get off.

    The third I did r see him much but I knew he was in the room. .I knew his presence was there just lurking..

    I woke up after the ex pretended to jump out window …(I’ve just written it backwards)

    Have no clue what this could mean ..some suggestion would help. .one be er dream of all of my exes in one dream ever before!! Intrigued

  2. I have had the re occurring dream of my ex for years now.
    Basically I’m always chasing him in on some form or another and I’m always just a little to late to catch him.
    Recently the dreams have changed. I finally catch up with him and we talk and are friends. But it feels like more.
    I’m happy in my relationship I have now and I’m a bout to get married. So I’m not really sure what this dream means.
    Any help would be greatly appreciated

  3. I was in a 1 and a half relationship when I decided to ride my bike at night and coming back home from it all there were bad people doing something not legal and well days later after our last time seeing each other her dad messages me asking me about me adding girls on facebook to try to pin me on trying to cheat on her well it wasn’t that it was because I put her in danger and well I tried saving our relationship so coming home from us breaking up i threw my helmet i cried ever since then i would have a nightmare and a good dream about her i don’t think its because i do still love her or not i believe maybe god’s sending a message to me

  4. Christa Bryce on

    I was in a 10 year relationship with a man and he was everything to me. He left me 3 years ago and married someone else. i dream about him constantly. Sometimes i can even hear his voice as if he were actually talking to me. He’s always in another relationship. It’s disturbing that i dream about him so often. I’m still crushed and think about him constantly. Why can’t i get over him.

    • natalie wright on

      You were heart broken ..that’s not a crime. You loved someone an it didn’t work out for you..your just still grieving. .you need to let go.. and how to let go is to either get councelling to help you work through your feelings .. or if you don’t want to do that..letting go include firstly forgiving yourself ..for the choices you made. .you were in love and it was OK to be in love..you must not beat yourself up for having feelings.. second floor thing is to accept your feelings and then accept the situation fully..and forgive him for hurting you by not loving you or marrying you.. 3rd thing.. tell your algorithm that it was not your fault and nothing you did.. these three things will help you let go.. do it each day and each night until you start to actually feel the difference..

  5. This shit is starting to mess with me a bit. I’m having these dreams about my ex from my early 20’s. It’s happening more frequently as of late. I’m married and almost in my mid 30’s. I am always so happy and have that “butterfly” fleeing while I’m dreaming of my ex. It’s the same ex that i dream about. I don’t what to do anymore lol I love my wife and I’m happy with my current situation. Anyways Lindsey if your having the same dreams and have visited this website call me

  6. I keep on dreaming about my manipulative boyfriend who used to beat me up and each time he appears in my dreams I get scared because he tries to hurt or manipulate me even in my dreams. What do I do to get past this…I’m in a new and healthy relationship now so I wonder why I keep on dreaming about my abusive boyfriend

  7. I met my first love in 2010. I was even his first love. We even lost our virginity to each other. We was long distance somewhat( i stayed in the city & he stayed in the suburb) Sadly we broke up in 2013 and he got in another relationship with this girl who harassed me, hacked my fb & yahoo account. I been having dreams about him good and bad. The last time he contacted me was in dec 2016 and he reminiscing on us and the past and how he still have these gifts I gave him, he even said he miss me, still care about me and hope to see me again. I haven’t heard from him since. I had a dream about him last night and all i remember was we texting on the phone wanting to see me & he was expressing how he felt for me.

  8. My dreams are… I don’t know how to describe it… Overwhelming I suppose.

    The first person I’ve ever fallen in love with is now haunting my dreams, I am always so distraught and lost without her in the dream but when I’m awake I feel like I can move on. When I see her in the dream the first words I can say are usually “Thank god I found you again” or never saying anything, just immediately wrapping her in my arms and holding her with tears in my eyes.

    Most times I wake up screaming with tears in my eyes and spend the next few hours trying to recalibrate and clear my thoughts. Is it healthy to live like this?

  9. My high school sweetheart is always in my dreams. We dated in the early 80’s he was my prom date, (we) loved each other terribly and could not see living without each other. After the prom we were still very much in love did everything together, l loved Karl God knows l did. We were young and careless ( l was ) he was ,3 times older and serious and mature about our future. I became pregnant after l graduated in 1981 and l secretly did not keep the child. We were still in this relationship after that. But somehow l lost interest and out of the blue l stopped dating him, and moved on. But l always loved him right? As times went on we never got back together he tried several times, l moved from many young relationships Karl was even then still on my mind even though l married and have two daughters by my x husband. Karl, is still on my mind today? He passed 3 days before my birthday Nov 15, l never knew l was his first girlfriend l attended the memorial he was cremated but was living in Ohio, we watched it via satellite. I was crushed l still loved him o of our lives with others. He’s still in my dreams TODAY WHY?

    • Shannon Collier on

      It depends on what happened and the context. If you miss him dearly and can’t take it then do it. Sometimes people need closure and that could be what you’re seeking

  10. Chris Fowlkes on

    When I dream of an ex, i dream about an ex in high school quite often, I was in the 10th grade he was in the 9th. We had fun together as far as I remember, but the problem is…i can’t remember how or why we broke up? We’re still friends to this day, and I’m happily married too. I think I keep dreaming of him because I don’t remember how broke up and I’m trying to find out!

    • Your story kinda sounds similar to mine and I’m happily married
      I broke up with an ex because it seems like all we did was have sex and didn’t go out plus I think his mom was jealous of me (little bit of a mommy boy) I end up getting back with my daughter dad since we both still had feelings for each other but the way I ended things with the other guy I felt a little guilty he wasn’t too happy eitherbut I felt like the relationship wasn’t going anywhere cause we never officially went on a date just sex (we just hung out in the house watching movies) but now that I think about it he probably had another girlfriend but then again he didn’t have a car so who knows but I know I made the right decision because we been married almost 10 years!!!! But some how I had a dream about the ex last night

  11. Dauda kamara on

    In my dream two boy who appeared to be neighbor to my wife ex boyfriend, they were passing and the other one which is the small boy ask the big one for my wife, and the big one say she stays here now, and look at her husband, I was standing under a tree, then i call the boy and ask him why she ask for my her, he say he want her to buy him something, at first my heart beat but after talking to the boy my heart rest . ( and in real life they don’t know each other)

  12. Dream two boy who appeared to be neighbor to my wife ex boyfriend, they were passing and the other one which is the small boy ask the big one for my wife, and the big one say she stays here now, and look at her husband, I was standing under a tree, then i call the boy and ask him why she ask for my her, he say he want her to buy him something, at first my heart beat but after talking to the boy my heart rest . ( and in real life they don’t know each other)

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  14. I got a dream last night about my ex, we seperared 3 years ago when i moved to different country but still we have long distance relationship been with him since 2010 and we broke up Oct of 2015 it was really hard for both of us since he was my first love. I stared dating after the year ended. 2016 I got a new relationship and so he does, got Married after a year and up to now 2017 i’m still dreaming about him all our plans before but end up not doing it. Is it probably that we broke up only via call since we’re in different countries? Cause my relationship with my husband now is so good but my ex is more close to my family and more to me as well. I just wanna know why this is happening to me everytime my ex’s bday comes nearer or in speacial occasions we had before. Thank you.

  15. drea m- my ex-grlf hugged me twice and went i call her but she didnt relpy me (i think i love her) what it means pls tell me P.s sorry for bad eng

  16. I want to use this medium to testify of how i got back my boyfriend after 5 months of separation, I and my boyfriend broke up on because he felt i was cheating on him with a male friend of mine, i tried all i could to explain to him but he paid deaf ears, i was emotionally devastated because i really loved him until i saw a post on the internet about Dr Mack, who helps people gain back their lost lover, at first i doubted if it was real because i never believed in such things but decided to give it a try, and Dr Mack proved to me that he has the power to restore relationship, he restored my relationship within 3 days and my boyfriend was begging to make up with me, if you need help to repair your relationship or marriage problems Email [email protected] .com

    • Bless Takahashi on

      Hi is he have a facebook? Plss help me. My name on facebook Bless Takahashi pls contact me.

      • DREAM CATCHER on

        OMG its a con!!! No one can help change the mind of a person. We are all individuals, with our own thoughts, feelings, and actions, and no-one can stop this thought process.

  17. I’ve had multiple dreams about my ex cheating on me even though in real life he never actually did. Also these dreams are usually also sexual. It’s a whole mix of everything. In real life he was always respectful but in my dreams he’s an a**hole. My thoughts: ???????????????

  18. Had a dream about a current ex that just went sour. He kicked out me out of his house this last Christmas Eve. And I’ve never looked back. Got my stuff and since then it’s been 5 months now. Only thing I talked to him for was to get the rest of my stuff and that was it. When I went he wasn’t even there so his mom gave it to me. Fast forward a couple months I’ve met this wonderful guy who’s been nothing but amazing to me. But lately I’ve been having several dreams about my ex, some in which it seems like I still live with him or just hanging out. I don’t know what this means. I still care for him deepy

    • Same thing is happened to me (almost the same) sis… my ex was my first everything and we broke up almost a year ago (September will be a year) and I met my amazing boyfriend… but I still dream of him (my ex) and I do keep him In my thoughts and stuff because I’ll always care and love him.. but these dream are throwing me off…

  19. Broke up with this guy I met in Turkey many years ago. We had a strong relationship and had plans to get married. Things got complicated and a “friend” started to flirt with him. We broke up and felt devastated. Now, I am happily married to a wonderful man and have a child. My husband is my best friend too and we even talk about our exes. However, I have these dreams where I see my ex and I suffer too much. I even wake up suffering. He makes me suffer a lot in my dreams and in them, I feel this horrible sensation that he hurts me and despises me. Once I saw this “friend” in a dream after I had been hurt by my ex again and she told me in a sad tone: “I hope to find you fine the next time we meet up.”

  20. Been divorced for 10 yrs and will not remarry again but I just dreamt about my ex. Actually, I dreamt about her quite a few times and most are nice. In my dreams, look like she wants to be with me most of the times. She did want me back before. My last dream about her, about an hour ago, she locks in my left arm the moment she sees me and we visit her mom (the nicest lady on earth to me) and aunts. She’s so happy.

    Was married happily for 10 yrs after 2 years of dating. Not even raise voice with each other once but things can turn sour quick (no sins here) and I decided to walk out empty handed. Took me almost 10 yrs to see some light from a deep hole. But in return, I’m so happy in single life (have a girl friend but not committed). I love life so much that I always feel as if I’m in heaven and won’t ever come back to earth (married life).

    All the guys I know wish to be like me. My story may sound fake or contradictory but 100% true.

    My married life is over and I did my best as a husband and father without any regret. My solo life is so wonderful but I have to admit that it’s always nice to dream about my ex :).

    At the end, dreams are just dreams, aren’t they? 🙂

    • You still miss your ex the way u express yourself shows it. You are great man an father how you said you will find a special girl that will treat you just the way you want her to treat

    • Yarima Escalante on

      You will get someone special in your life you will see. I understand you completely. I know how you feel trust me

  21. Manelyn lopez on

    I’m happily in love with my current boyfriend. In fact we are engage. But I don’t know why until now I still keep on dreaming with my ex for almost 5 years. I’m really confused why I keep dreaming on him
    And it really affect my mood and jealous with his current relationship. I know I should feel this way since I am in a relationship.

  22. My dreams of my 2 ex husbands are always sexual. They’re cheating on their present wives trying to get back with me in a sexual manner while in the same room with their wives. I’m not in a relationship & haven’t been for 5 yrs, could I just be missing a sex life and bc they were my husbands, I’m remembering what we had sexually?

  23. had a guy, tom, i adored. it wasnt going anywhere, i felt. went out with another man to make him jealous. i was date raped which no one knew. had a baby and name her after tom. he thought i was honoring him, but i wasnt. he was so dear and special and in my heart i wanted to always keep him near and in my heart. when i looked at my daughter i wanted to feel tom and connect. she is 43 and everyday i see and feel tom. he keeps appearing in dreams. he had worked for an airline and in a dream he told me to wear airplane earrings.

      • Can you maybe help me please. My wife is busy leaving me but is still staying with me till she moves out after 16 years. I am devastated. I dreamed last night that I was trying to make love to her but she refused. We were in an empty hall that’s all I can remember. does it mean something or just a bad dream. I was trying to touch her but she slap my hand away. She hates me and said she got her boss that’s married that can look after her his 10 years older than her. We were married for 16 years. I still cannot believe this. Can someone help me with this please. Will we connect again after a few years or not.

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