Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that often occurs when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and know the meaning.

Dreaming of your ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex-lovers are quite common for individuals who have gone through painful breakups and still have lingering feelings.

What Does It Mean When You Dream About An Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is visiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming of being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex-lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex-partner had that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex-boyfriend that was great with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually, people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period when life was “more straightforward.” Sometimes that period will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex-does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them.”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually, these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you that you need to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

Read This: 11 Reasons Why You Have Dreams About Your Ex

Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex-proposing or even marrying an ex-boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without actually expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they actually felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of one’s feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex, there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually, it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also say that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new, then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex- partner may signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship, it is important to look at the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Are you are convinced that you are meant to be with your ex? It is important to remember that you broke up for a reason. Getting back together will not solve these issues unless you change the root of the problem. This book by Mike Fiore, the creator of best selling “Text Your Romance Back Into Your Life,” is a great option for people who are looking to get the romance back into their lives.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship, and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually, these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have to your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more – People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship, and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex-meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex-partner does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can say you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened to you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex-lover are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are no signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

If you have ever had a cheating dream make sure you read this article: Cheating Dreams – What They Mean

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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for Dream Stop and has been working in the field of dreams for the past decade. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. These interpretations are for entertainment purposes only. Stephen's interpretations should be considered an opinion, not professional advice.


  1. Kahealani K on

    For the past few days I’ve been dreaming about my ex and it leaves me conflicted in my current relationship going on 1 year and 3 months. A year and 3 months ago, I decided to take my ex out of my life because he was just using me. It was different in my dream, though. In my dreams, more recently, he broke up with my former best friend (the girl who replaced me) and decided to take me out on dates. For some reason, my brain couldn’t and wouldn’t remember my current love and it was kind of frustrating through the process of my dream. And throughout my dream it was like the things I had wished for when we were together. Dates, hanging out, connecting (on all kinds of connection levels). I always wake up confused. I don’t tell anyone because all they say is I miss him. Which I miss being a friend because he’s not a bad friend. But he’s not good as a best friend or boyfriend, but letting him back into my life would be counterproductive in the progress I’ve made mentally without him.

  2. I was with a relationship with this girl named Kyra. I really thought she was the one. When we weren’t fighting it seemed like the perfect relationship. She’s always has had a problem with jealousy. It was so bad she would constantly think I was cheating on her and make these fake scenarios up in her head even though I was faithful the entire time… eventually I couldn’t take the craziness and had to end the relationship. I severed my connections with her but she still appears in my dreams with another guy. I know I am much better off without her I still can’t help to feel a little sad about this. What the fuck is wrong with me? Lol

  3. Im still recovering from the break up. Why do i have to see him in my dreams two times already? The second time i have dreamed about him my unconscious mind suddenly woke up and tears fell through my eyes it really hurts to know that he had to appear in my dreams knowing that in my waking life hes my ex already. Its just one month and weeks that I am still moving on and a part of me still loves him. I hate because when we were together i always wanted to be with him in my dreams because we were in a LDR but I barely dreamed of him and mostly we ignore each other. But now i never want to see him through my dreams because IT HURTS SINCE HE ALWAYS WANTS ME BACK IN MY DREAMS AND IT WAS SO BELIEVABLE THAT I COULD SEE HIS FACE IN MY DREAMSSS!!!!!! THEN SUDDENLY I WOULD JUST WAKE UP AND REALIZE THAT ITS NOT TRUE THAT IT MAKES ME FUCKING CRY. I MEAN LIKE WHY DOES HE HAVE TO TELL ME THAT IN MY DREAMS IF I ALREADY KNOW THAT UN REALITY WERE DONE?! CANT I ATLEAST BE PEACEFUL IN MY DREAMS

    • I woke up this morning crying too. Been 9 years for me n every time I have these dreams it happens. I tend to go back to sleep just so I can dream again of her. It’s not fun being alone and wishing I can kiss her lips and see her smile again. I hate my life.

  4. I dreamt of kissing my ex of three years in my dreams last night. She keeps appearing in my dreams. I think I am still in love with her but am not sure if it’s because I always still think of her. I proposed and she said no but few months later said yes and announced it over social media and I said no not sure as to why or but the last dream I was kissing her but saw someone whom I don’t know an she was very attractive…. but I felt happier kissing my ex in the dream but more attracted to the other women in the dream.

  5. I broke up with my GF of 5 years about 4 years ago. Although its been long since the breakup, we went our separate ways and we married and have our separate families. Suddenly from the blue, i dream of her sending a message to my brother to speak to me asking me to stop coming after her and keep away as she is happily married!!!! I tried to talk to her and she avoided me and she just ran off. in the dream, i was so gutted!!!!
    i woke up and to see my wife on the bed and felt very bad.

  6. Emotionally Confused on

    My ex dreams have all had a similar element.

    Wishful thinking.

    Our breakup wasn’t actually very dramatic. We had been arguing so much we had hit a wall. Disoriented from the truth of the matter, we both knew it wasn’t going to work. He was always looking on Match.com while I was with him. But when he told me it was because he was insecure and just wanted to see messages from girls, I should have tried to drown my strong emotional attachment to him then. Then when he became less accepting of me, and more judgemental. When he would argue with me and I’d have panic attacks because I was completely dependent upon him, which he would do nothing to help. And finally… when I needed him emotionally, he would push me away and call me weak.

    But despite all the negatives, my feelings for him were so strong. And admittedly still are. I feel a lump in my throat as I write this down, but it makes me feel better to get it out.

    The truth of the matter is that even if I love him as much as I do, and even though I know that a part of him does still care me and worry, if we got back together we would be absolutely miserable. Content, perhaps, in certain aspects. But miserable all the same.

    But because of my constant contact attempts, I ruined what would have been a friendship between him and I in expressing confusion and my struggle to accept that he no longer loved me the same way he used to.

    I am getting married to someone else sometime this year. He treats me a lot better, and all the pieces are present. However, my feelings of attachment to my ex are still present and preventing me from feeling anything more than this dull ache in my heart sometimes. I do care about my fiancé, and I can see a good future ahead of us. But the truth of the matter is something I am hesitant to admit…

    My dreams occur regardless if I am thinking about him or not. If I am over at my fiancé’s place or if I’m alone. It’s always the same thing. My ex telling me/actively realizing he misses me and us fixing and restarting. It always leaves me feeling so happy, and when I wake up… the slow realization of reality is like breaking up with him all over again.

    But I don’t want to feel like this anymore, which is why I’m trying to leave it behind. My fiancé is so much better than my ex… but I’m afraid that my feelings are dulled immensely because of such a strong emotional connection being ripped apart before.

    In short… I doubt these dreams will stop. I doubt my heart will love nothing and no one else more than my ex, regardless of how much time passes… But I HAVE to move forward as if my life is normal. Giving in isn’t going to help me. My fiancé is a great man, and treats me far better. There is no real reason for me to miss my ex.

  7. I Have been away from my partner for over 4 months, I found out he had been cheating on me and stealing from me and others.he did a runner and started a new life with someone else who doesn’t know what he is like and he has cut himself off from all of his family and friends. I dreamt last nite about him being happy with this other woman and her being surrounded by her family and friends and me standing all alone with everyone looking at me. He was looking at me in total disgust

  8. I had a dream I was at a party & my current boyfriend left me there then after the party I called him & he told me he was at this Christmas festival to meet him there. As I was leaving this Asian girl asked me to talk as we went to the kitchen where the party was she got in one knee & asked me to marry her I looked at her with confusion & said no, I have to go. I took the sub & met my mom & sister at a grocery store before going to the festival. while I was there I saw my ex but didn’t make eye contact. I walked off fast as I knew he saw me then he ran to catch up to me & hold my hand with a huge smile on his face & said he just got back from the military & that he missed me so much after I reply I have to go I need to catch up to my sister. As I got to my sister she told me she needed to show me something & she took me to this pretty place & my ex was there asking me to take him back & live with him. I said no I can’t do that to my boyfriend then my sister started crying on how upset she was then I left to catch my boyfriend at the festival as I arrive he looked really happy to see me but I didn’t tell him what happen. We dranked a beer together & watched this band play. He kept kissing me but I remember my face just being plain & thinking of everything that happen that day but didn’t dare to bring it up.

    I been with my current boyfriend for 2 years.
    What does this mean??

  9. I had a dream I was at a party & my current boyfriend left me there then after the party I called him & he told me he was at this Christmas festival to meet him there. As I was leaving this Asian girl asked me to talk as we went to the kitchen where the party was she got in one knee & asked me to marry her I looked at her with confusion & said no, I have to go. I took the sub & met my mom & sister at a grocery store before going to the festival. while I was there I saw my ex but didn’t make eye contact. I walked off fast as I knew he saw me then he ran to catch up to me & hold my hand with a huge smile on his face & said he just got back from the military & that he missed me so much after I reply I have to go I need to catch up to my sister. As I got to my sister she told me she needed to show me something & she took me to this pretty place & my ex was there asking me to take him back & live with him. I said no I can’t do that to my boyfriend then my sister started crying on how upset she was then I left to catch my boyfriend at the festival as I arrive he looked really happy to see me but I didn’t tell him what happen. We dranked a beer together & watched this band play. He kept kissing me but I remember my face just being plain & thinking of everything that happen that day but didn’t dare to bring it up.
    What does this mean??

  10. I had the strangest dream, my ex wife and mother of my oldest daughter gave a ride to my current fiancé and I to go visit my oldest daughter. For some reason she left us stranded and would not give us a ride home as we argued every time my ex wife would say my name these snakes would appear and crawl around my feet. Every time I would look up it was a war torn world almost as if I was back in Iraq ……. the last thing I yelled at my ex wife was “your going to make us late” then I woke up……

  11. I havent been with my kids father of for the last 3 years. I been in a new relationship with for a year and conceived another day child even.
    Now for the past month or so I have been dreaming of a my ex coming to me and asking for me to come back to him..

  12. Ariesteo Budoy on

    I have dream while I am waiting a bus going to some place…I saw a woman on my back. And when I turned back,it was my ex-girlfriend…and I start hugging her and kissing her…and I tell her come back to me…and we start a conversations about her present boyfriend and she told me they already separated…and then I wake up….

  13. I had a dream I met up with my ex and he was a changed man, still a bit crazy and wild but good he was so happy he cried but he still was a jealous person and so was I. In my dream I haven’t told him about my current boyfriend and introduced him to all my friends which knew I was in a relationship. My current boyfriend came back from work earlier while the ex was on a cig and I started running with my current boyfriend saying we Gotta get home and I’ll explain everything later. The ex caught us and I came true to both of them holding their hands and crying explaining that I love my current boyfriend and he gives me the respect I never had from the ex, telling ex at the same time that he will always be in my heart. The ex started laughing sarcastically and he reached to the sky and pulled all the stars from the sky to me to prove he changed and is willing to give me everything and I still rejected him and went back home with my current boyfriend…..I don’t know what that really means because secretly I wanted to give ex the chance but I didn’t want to risk the good life I currently have.

  14. I dreamed about my boyfriend and his ex girlfriend in this dream my boyfriend pass by my place not telling where he is going then after few his ex girlfriend pass by my place so i started thinking about the two wondering where are they going …i went straight to the park and found them there in each other hands and i didnt know what to say or do thats my dream what does it mean because this girl is the threat towards our relationship

  15. I had a dream my ex and I were in his car on our way to pick up my nephew as we often did when we were still together in the dream he says to me “You know what we haven’t done in a long time go on a date I really want to take you on a date” I ask about his current girlfriend and he casually says “o that’s over” Weird.

  16. My ex always shows up in my dreams, with the latest of him showing up with his son, whilst his current girlfriend works away.. I’m really attentive to his son (as I always was) and my cleaning… However, whilst im cleaning the bath tub ready to bath his son and mine, he calls me at the bottom of the stairs with my son laughing that their eating my chocolate lol. What does this mean please?

  17. I’m in a middle of dilemma with my bf because his company is moving him to middle east, which is not really a suitable place for both of us. We’re currently on a break untill he get the official letter from his company. Both of us don’t want to do LDR because of our past relationships. I hv been dreaming about him for few times during our break. Last night was weird. I dream that he went to visit me at school (but in real life I’m not studying anymore) and he looked sad and really thin in my dream. I hope in real life he’s not like that.

  18. I had a dream that my ex and I were getting married. It has been five years since I have seen or talked to my ex. I had met my ex at work when I worked at McDonald’s. We had been talking for awhile. I had just gotten out of a nasty relationship. And we instantly clicked into place. After two weeks of just hanging out and being together and having fun I was the first one to tell him that I loved him. And to my surprise he said it back to me. Things were going great for the first year we couldn’t have been happier. Then one little person showed up into our lives I call her the poison. She had so-called step daddy issues. And she didn’t like being in the house alone with him. So she ended up sleeping in my boyfriend’s car. That lasted for a while and every time he came over to see me she was with him. Then the day of rabbit Fest comes. She’s with him again. She goes out to the car to go grab a charger or something. And he tells me that we need to talk. His excuse for breaking up with me that day is that every one of his friends showed up to where he worked and told him that I was cheating on him. And he told me eventually it gets to your head at some point and that’s why he broke up with me. It was a spiteful day. She was all over him when I wasn’t around. Then one night I wake up to the most gut-wrenching feeling I have ever had in my life. I called him up immediately trying to find out what was going on. He told me that she was sleeping in his bed and that he was sleeping on his couch. But I didn’t believe it. No we weren’t back together as a matter of fact we were both still single. But I was so connected to him that I could feel that he had had sex with her. Later on down the road 84 days since he broke up with me to be exact. He arranged a perfect date for us and we went and saw a movie and he asked me back out. I gladly accepted. But then after a while of living together and I was the one working and he was the one that stayed at home and cleaned all you wanted to do was play his video games instead of spend time with me. It was then that I grew irritated and I wanted him to feel the way I felt when he had slept with her. And he had confessed to the reason why he broke up with me is because he wanted her sexually. So I ended up talking to a guy who became a good friend but I was getting a little intimate with him. Because like I said before I wanted him to feel the way I felt. We never ended up doing anything together. And the night I broke up with him we had the most passionate sensual love making that we had ever had. So after all that he moved to North Carolina and as far as I know he has a model for a girlfriend and they have been going strong. But last night I had a dream that he came back and I was so ecstatic to see him and we were getting married very soon. A man that I haven’t seen for going on 6 years still manages to find a way into my dream. And he won’t talk to me so I can have closure. But he still haunts my dreams and I don’t know why.

    • Veronica Rosales on

      I have had almost the sane dream me and my ex have been broken up for two weeks one night I had a dream that he was standing by my door with it closed and I woke up in my dream and got so happy to see him and I got up and hugged him and started crying and saying this is not a dream your here and he said no babe its not a dream I’m here.so we laid down and I woke up for real and it was a dream what does that mean and why would he tell me its not a dream.

  19. I am 22 years old, and I’ve been having frequent dreams about my ex the past week. They usually have something to do with me going to meet up with him somewhere in town only for there to be tons of complications on my way to him. When I finally meet up with him (usually at the end of my dream) we talk about the pros and cons of us getting back together from his point of view. It’s like he’s debating on whether it’s worth it or not to be with me again. Even though in real life I was the one who broke up with him because he cheated on me after 2 1/2 years. I can’t explain it and I hate the way it makes me feel because I wake up wondering if I made the right decision breaking up with him almost 3 years ago now. It has me questioning me strength and wondering why I didn’t give him a second chance if clearly I subconciously miss him so much. I just wish the dreams would stop because it’s starting to make me want to get into contact with him & when I broke up with him I was telling myself that I was doing the right thing even though I was deeply in love because I knew I deserved better. It’s all just making me feel so foolish. & the last thing I want to do is try to get into contact with him because of these stupid dreams and get rejected.

    • I kid you not your whole dream and feelings , well pretty much everything you wrote down was exactly what I was gonna say everything.
      I too had a dream in an ex and we were trying to work things out to get back together , and I too miss him very much and deep down still have love for him till this day , I too broke it off because he cheated . I’ve been wanting to contact him aswell but I’ve heard he’s currently in a relationship and last thing I want is for him to ask me why am I texting him or get rejected or even worse ruin his new relationship as much as it hurts me I tell myself not to do it and let things be and go how they are . I was deeply in love with him and thing just went south . Just everything you said was exactly my dream and feelings all tipped out but only difference is I read it from someone else . I just wish I knew what this dream ment . Of and to throw it out there I dreamt of him for a whole week.

  20. Been divorced and remarried. The past couple nights i have been dreaming of my ex. The dreams seem so real to the point i can feel the wind on my face, the brush as someone walks by, etc. Each dream ends with him begging me to forgive him and to take him back. Im happy with my husband and Lord knows that there is nothing to compare. just wish i could make sense of it.

  21. I am 36 and got over my highschool/college 7 years first love. I am now 36 and have never really communicated with her after the fact. Finished school, met my ex-wife and moved from NJ to FL, haven’t thought about my school time love. Yet for past three day’s I have had vivid dreams about her in situation that would be regular. In the last one (last night) I woke thinking WTF……..Wish I knew what it meant.

  22. I was in an abusive relationship with a guy 3 and 1/2 years ago and now he is appearing in my dreams. He keeps trying to grab me but I manage to “fly/float” away. Everywhere I go in my dream he is there and chasing me and I feel like he is going to catch up to me and get me one of these times. It truly freaks me out. As soon as my feet lift off the ground to get away from him he is there and just misses grasping my foot or ankle. It makes my skin crawl and my heart race and I get extremely hot. What does this mean?

  23. A snake bit my ex lover boy (I loved him but he was an addict so I call us lovers not a couple) while he was teasing it or playing with it- similarly to how he would play with my little puppy. I found his interaction with the dog playful and endearing.

    I knew this guy before I married my husband and while my husband and I were separated we found each other again and had another fling. I loved this guy. We were passionate- similar artist type people.

    Well that didn’t last because he loved drugs more tha he respected me and I’m back with my husband because apparently my husband loves me unconditionally and doesn’t care what I did and just thinks every guy is after me anyway so…. He treats me like a princes too. I’ve never been loved so deeply it’s weird.

    Later in my dream my lover boy is at a picnic table that I approach with a puppy and he walks away- dismissing my presence and acting as if he never saw me.

    I always think and wonder about my lover boy- to be honest I wish i could have him AND my husband. We were all three roommates at one time, too. Happiest time of my life.

    My life is weird but damnit. I wanna know if I’m processing the loss of my lover boy or if I should go for him- we were always so strangely connected. I can’t imagine he is not wondering about me.

    Maybe I should tell my husband about this dream.
    But then I’d have to tell him I still care about the lover boy and that would hurt him. I care for my husband too.

      • LMAO. True. Clearly she’s bored with being respected, doesn’t respect herself and misses being degraded by her junkie loser/lover

  24. I’ve been dreaming about my ex who broke up with me 3 yrs ago. He’s already married and I’ve been single since we broke up. In my dreams, it’s as if I still want him and I even asks about his wife. It’s like I’m checking out if he got a wife that’s better than me. In those dreams, we hang out and it feels like we missed each other as if nothing happened. Whenever I dreamed about him, I’m thinking of sending him a message though we didn’t remain as friends and our last contact was 2 yrs ago. Our breakup was so traumatic to me as I thought that he was the one – even told him to wait for me for another year to get married. I literally gave everything to him and when he broke up with me because of the girl I’m being suspecting of, my whole world just went berserk and I seriously got depressed. I fought for him and our relationship, even made myself look crazy in front of him as I was really lost and so devastated that I can’t do anything to win him back. I can say that I already moved on, but why do I keep on dreaming about him unconsciously. I really want to message him or his mother to share this but I’m thinking what will they think of me. I’d say that I’ve become a hopeless romantic because there are guys who’ve been wanting to know me but it seems that even if I wanted to open myself tobothers, it’s like I have this wall and they can’t reach out to me so they just don’t continue pursuing me. Sometimes I feel that i really need to be in a relationship coz I feel empty and I want to feel loved again. Though I’d say that the breakup really made me independent and strong. And I’m thinking if there will be a guy who will break my wall and accept me as who I am and love me for real. I’d say that my ex did love me but he just didn’t accept the whole me. He wanted a family during our early stages but I was trying live out to the fullest that time and I was the breadwinner so I asked him to wait at this certain age. It was an almost 7 year relationship which I though will last forever. But it didn’t. So there.

    • I’m in a very similar situation too. Although I was married and we divorced around 2 years ago.

      She wasn’t the best person for me to be honest but I loved her unconditionally and gave it everything. She had some amazing qualities though aside from all the bad ones. Now all of a sudden I’m dreaming about her nightly….it’s really stopping me moving on in my life and allowing myself to let someone else in.

    • You sound like me.

      I dreamt of my ex last night with th his wife and child begging for closure. Begging the world to give him the suffering I felt all these years. To take away the happiness he feels. To show him that it’s NOT OK to cheat and hide everything under the carpet.

      I dream and wake up with emotions that I just left him.

      My dreams of him have always meant that in our waking world something big has happened in his life.

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