Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means

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“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that often occurs when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning.

Dreaming of your ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

What Does It Mean When You Dream About An Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

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Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without truly expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they truly felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of ones feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Are you are convinced that you are meant to be with your ex? It is important to remember that you broke up for a reason. Getting back together will not solve these issues unless you change the root of the problem. This book by Mike Fiore, the creator of best selling “Text Your Romance Back Into Your Life,” is a great option for people who are looking to get the romance back into their lives.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you really cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its own way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more – People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

If you have ever had a cheating dream make sure you read this article: Cheating Dreams – What They Really Mean

Do You Need Help Interpreting Your Ex Dream?

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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.

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  1. I Dreamed That My Ex Showed Up To My House . And He Had Asked Me To Go Outside So I Did We Were Talking & Laughing &Just Having A Good Time. Me & My Ex Broke Up About 2 Years Ago … Well Next In My Dream My Recent Boyfriend Shows Up I Walked To The Car And He Asked Me Who Was That I Said It’s My Ex My Bf Noded His Head & Just Woked Up Because I Just Didn’t Wanted This Dream To Continue .. Does Anyone Know Why I Dreamed This?

  2. I often dream of my ex. We are broken up about 4 years after 4 years together. Bad breakup and unresolved feelings. He would never speak to me again. Yet I dream of him often. I have no one new yet. I have very lucid dreams and I believe the author captures many of the reasons that I dream of my ex. It reminds me of happier times that I miss, I miss having someone near me, I have other issues going on in my life that bring him to mind and many of the comments made by the author.
    Sometimes relationships are soundly resolved and the people separate and move on with their own lives. However this is not always the case.
    I think the dreams can be healing and instructive. As the author says, if we are thinking about our ex in our waking lives, sometimes our subconscious mind (our dreaming lives) help us to process what has happened. It does not necessarily mean the person is coming back. Maybe just that part of me that was left behind is “regrouping” and reflecting, effectively trying to recover from the fracture in my world that this event created.
    I find dreams a very friendly pathway to insight, guidance and healing. And sometimes they are just amusing or inspiring. And sometimes they are frightening. I embrace them all as a pathway to self awareness and a connection to the divine. Sometimes they can be a “visit ” with someone who I will never see in my waking life again. I find the dream life to be fascinating.

  3. I had a dream about my ex a few nights ago. It was really strange but peaceful at the same time. in my dream I was given some tasks by my father to go repair something that I have never fixed before. I felt so overwhelmed and stressed out so I went to go lay down on the bed and out of no where, arms were wrapped around me and a female’s hands were playing with my hands which was something my ex used to do. The woman that I presumed was my ex then says “I love you too”. After I heard those words, I got up from the bed (still in my dream) and went to go work on whatever. I didn’t feel stressed or overwhelmed anymore. When I heard those words in my dream I knew it was my ex’s voice. Funny thing is that I didn’t see her face in my dream or even say the words “I love you” to her to begin with. Like I said earlier, strange but really peaceful to feel and hear from her in my dream…

  4. I dreamed that my ex wife and me were trying to find somewhere safe as the world was in the grip of a zombie holocaust. We were in a high rise building trying to escape,my last memory of the dream is I’m running towards a vehicle, but my ex is behind me falling from the building we were in, as she is falling she is calling me on my mobile phone telling me she loves me and was sorry.
    During our 15year relationship she committed adultery, I ended our marriage and divorced her because of this.

  5. My ex and I have been through a rather messy break-up, but have now not been together in a committed relationship for over a year and a half. However, we still remain good friends and we did continue to do things together that maybe normal friends would not. I feel that, in large part, we have stayed friends because I have been able to put up with the way she twists things and manipulates me to feel upset if she says that I have done something wrong, even though we are both actually single. Because I do love her, I always try to please her and not upset her, however I am a lad who cannot help myself around other girls when I am single, so I end up apologising quite a lot. I probably shouldn’t have to do this, but that’s okay. Anyway… A couple of weeks ago I finally plucked up the courage to stand up to her. She became really jealous when I stopped replying and “didn’t give her as much attention as I used to”. She then asked to be exclusive with me and this was good for about a month, until she went back to being herself. I then straight up said that this was unfair because I had given up a lot to go back into this, considering I struggle with opening to people with my feelings, especially when I have suppressed them because I was hurt before. She then ended it again. I sent her a couple of long messages detailing where I was at in my life and what I wanted and what I thought of her and then gave her some space to make her mind up. She still hasn’t and we haven’t spoke for a few days. However, last night I had a dream that we accidentally saw each other in a place that I do not know. She kissed me on the cheek and was being seductive, and I was pushing her away to ask what was going on. She then got annoyed and told me she was seeing someone else now and that he makes her way happier than I ever did. I then woke up. What does this mean? :(

    • Move on honestly because she isn’t going to change even if she’s trying her hardest. Something’s just can’t change even if the person tries it’s very hard to mold someone the way you want them to be. It’s either you expect her for her nasty attitude and help her help herself or just end it completely because you are just wasting more of your time. I’ve been in the same situation for like two years but not anymore I’m pretty happy and over the person though I still love them it’s not that easy but promise you’ll find someone better.

  6. Ive been dreaming for the past few nights about an ex that i was with about two years ago. Im currently in a new relationship that will be going on 2 years as well in march. In the first dream we met again and started talking. I grasped her hand and she took mine in hers. We went to her house and say and talked for a while. The next fee dreams were about going on dates. What do theses dreams mean? I feel like i want her back and i dont know what to do.

  7. I had this dream A few times about my long distance ex-boyfriend . We have been split up 6 moth and we are in the same friendship group. Everytime I have the dream it start with just all meet up with our friends going out and having a good time . Then me and my ex start talking like old times and then her get a bit drunk and he end up telling me he has made mistake I want to be back and how he miss me too and is sorry for they way he finish me . The thing is I would love to get back with him . So can anyone help me , what dose this mean.

    • now.. approximately how long is 6 moth’s? its only accurate if we know how long a moth is before we answer your question.

  8. I had a dream that my ex wife came to visit me.. When i sat down all her words where just jibberish (like the parents on charlie brown) as i sat there i turned my head to show her the tattoo on my neck of my fiancees name the jibberish kept up i got up and walked away… What does it mean

  9. 2 nights ago I had a dream that my ex girlfriend brought me to hang out at some guys house with a house full of people. Teenage kind of thing. All the lights were off but people were still visible. Playing music, drinking smoking laughing talking loud. I didn’t trust the whole scene. I felt like someone was going to attempt to harm me. I felt like she must be talking to the guy(who owns the apartment) behind my back , why else were we there ? …
    -Last night I had a dream with the same ex whom is recently my ex AND an ex from like 7TH. GRADE. I’m 23 now. We were on a bus riding home and I ended up leaving with the older ex. That 7th grade ex cheated on me and was very distrustful on many occasions but I will say that she always catered to me. Made sure I ate, had a couple dollars, was in a good mood etc.. In my defense I’ve never dreamt of 7th grade ex before. What’s going on !? Anyone ??

  10. Your Comments
    I’ve been having this dream for some time now about my ex.this is d 5th time I’m seeing him in my dream and we were d way we use to be.
    since we broke up I’ve not been able to get a replacement cos he was my best friend and everything and can’t help myself but rather living a single life.
    though we’re in talking terms just as a mere friend but him appearing to my dream most night is what I can’t tell.please what do I do?

  11. I had a dream that my ex husband came back to me. He was so sorry what he did to me. He was so warm and gave me bunch of tight hugs. he swore to never give up on me anymore and always fight for me. we moved together and started new life. We were so happy,. then he wanted to take me for shopping ,. Then i woke up. wish I could sleep longer,.
    He was the only one who broke up, without saying anything. He just decided to leave me, no explanation, nothing. I realize that I miss him.

  12. Independent Strong,Single Momma on

    I had a dream that I was hanging out with my ex who is also my sons father and was my first love, it wasn’t romantic, just hanging out and my son although three now and at the choice of his father has never met him was a baby again and my ex didn’t really seemed interested in the baby but was at least amiable toward him, if only my son were so fortunate in real life, my ex took us to some comedy club to hang out and my ex’s father all of a sudden was spotted by my ex who was trying not to be seen by him and then his father spotted us and was relieved to see that my ex was hanging out with me and said it was so good to see me, and being that he was so welcomingi introduced him to his grandson, something I haven’t had the chance to do in real life, and he was so enamored with this baby who really does take after them so much, we were so busy getting acquainted I hadn’t noticed my ex take off, my son got cranky from all the people laughing at the comedy spot so I scooped him up and decided to take him for some fresh air and it was so nice having the finally introduced grandfather so warm and accommodating and impressed with everything about my son including how quickly he calmed down once he was back in my arms…. We walked out side and around the peremiter and then spotted my sons father by a back stairwell and he was angry so I walked over to him, instinctivly knowing he was mad about his “abandoned child meeting his father” so I came over, still in a good mood from the same occurrence that was making him angry and confronted him firmly and then persuaded the conversation off focus with innocent jokes derailing his mood and seeing him physically lighten up, then I woke up.

    I realize that it’s my desire to get along with my ex and his family for my sons sake and I’ve attempted to do so a couple times with only firey opposition .Why does my subconscious keep filling me with false hope? Is there another reason why these types of dreams straggle in?

  13. I’m currently in a 11 month relationship. We recently got engaged and our looking for our first house together. She is my bestfriend/soulmate, and everything else you could ask for in a partner. Yet i find my exes creeping into my dreams more and more.

    They always start the same my ex (or exes) stating how lucky they are, and how much they love me and will never do anything to lose me. Then it turns to them saying how they have met someone else and i didnt mean anything. And the last part of my dreams are always of my current lover doing the exact thing.

    seeing as we have know issues in our relationship, its very easy to say, my fears of the past are stalking my dreams.

  14. I had a dream that me and my exboyfriend got back together we where do sweet. He would always hug me and never let me go. It like he loved me so much that he wanted to be with me forever. Then his exgirlfriend come in the picture they start to fight she push him and he fail on something on the ground I wire the one when they make a house or building it poked him right through him. I was trying to look for a phone to call 911.I couldn’t hardly talk I was nervous and shaking to much then I heard siren and I run out the building. They where leaving i thought I saw him in the car I screamed out his exgirlfriend name and they stop when I looked he was not there. Then there was this little boy that stop me for a few minutes. Then I start running to go to the hospital. Then I feel something cold touching my hand and I felt he was died. I started crying I just see his hand touching my hand and I woke up with tears in my eyes and start to crying I saw my whole dream. What does it mean?

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