Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that often occurs when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning.

Dreaming of your ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

What Does It Mean When You Dream About An Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

Related Dreams: Boyfriend Dreams or Girlfriend Dreams

Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.


Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without truly expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they truly felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of ones feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Are you are convinced that you are meant to be with your ex? It is important to remember that you broke up for a reason. Getting back together will not solve these issues unless you change the root of the problem. This book by Mike Fiore, the creator of best selling “Text Your Romance Back Into Your Life,” is a great option for people who are looking to get the romance back into their lives.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you really cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its own way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more – People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

If you have ever had a cheating dream make sure you read this article: Cheating Dreams – What They Really Mean

Do You Need Help Interpreting Your Ex Dream?

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About Author

Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.


  1. I’m in the midst of a new relationship, he’s a good guy but I still have my doubts. I had a dream about my Ex, which was weird because I honestly hate this man deeply. The dream started so weirdly but somehow I ended up on a bed with him on my left and a stripper lol (yes a stripper I said) on my right, they were talking as if I wasn’t even there. She was talking to him like a dog and he was begging and pleading for her attention like a puppy. I got up and just felt sorry for him, she gave me a high five and told me she got this and to leave. I woke up right after that. Crazy right! Me and my ex had a horrible relationship, I thought he was just a troubled man in need of love but his initial intentions of dating me was to embarrass me. I was going through a hard time in my life and I thought I finally found someone who understood me but I was sadly mistaken. He had a issue with women in general and I was just another victim. I’m not perfect but no woman should have to go through what I went through. Curious to know the meaning behind the dream

  2. I’m married for almost 3 years now with a guy whom we’ll secretly name as J. However, a few months before our wedding (it was unplanned, happened so fast), he was not a caring and sweet boyfriend, I sometimes felt he was not in love with me even after a year of dating. While we were in a relationship (no plans of getting married at all), I found a new guy, name is D, my classmate of 2 years whom I gotten close with. He’s very caring, super thoughtful, he made me laugh, he made me happy, like when we were together, all my worries went away. I just found everything I was looking for a guy in him. We dated for 2 months while I was still in a relationship with J. Of course, I was always with D because we’re classmates. Then, one situation changed everything. I got pregnant with J, D wanted to think the baby was his but he knew he wasn’t his. D wanted us to be together, he said he’d support us financially but he was not ready for marriage or stuff like that. J of course was very willing to be with me and our son and marry me. Everything got so chaotic between the three of us when J found out about D and me and the baby. He wanted space, so he went home to his hometown. A few days later, J’s mom said that he had an accident and was brought to the hospital. The next morning, I traveled to their hometown to take care of him and mend things. D knew that there was very little chance for us but we were really in love and didn’t want to leave each other though he was willing to sacrifice. To make the story short, while I was taking care of J, it just went on from there, we fixed things between us, he was happy that he’d become a dad and the wedding was planned. I met D a few times but we never had the chance to say goodbye. Then J and I got married, I gave birth to our son, and lived away from our life before. However, my brain keeps on thinking about D until now. Just this week, I’ve dreamed of him twice and think of him almost every day :( What could’ve been my life now if I was with D. Anyway, I don’t know why I keep on thinking and dreaming about him. I feel sorry for my husband, though he had his fare share with his ex as well but this year was really great between us. uuuggghhhh, I just want to be happy for my son, there’s nothing more important than my son.

  3. I had a relationship from 2010 till 2012 with my ex and still dream about her. I think the main reason why i do is because i realize how i let something that good slip through my fingers by behaving like a bad boyfriend. I wake up EVERYDAY because im hurt in my dreams and when im awake im feeling awful. Wish i could call her, or just email her… But i know it would be selfish to do so. So the only thing i can do is accept the dreams and hope she is happy in her own personal life. Needless to say i will love her forever, sometimes you just cant get over someone. Sevilay voor altijd zal ik van je houden. Goodluck to everybody on this site, i know how much it sucks to wake up because of dreams every night

  4. I just woke up from 24 hours being awake, iff you go sleep the next day dreams become very real like, and they last longer. I Always did this when i was young. I broke up recently with my ex girlfriend. So i was awake for 24 hours 2 days ago and i just woke up all i did was dream about my ex girlfriend , i woke up crying because she wasnt with me, it doesnt mater what, i will Always break up with her in my dreams, and she does it.

  5. So I have this dream about my old partner (on again, off again for 3yrs) & my current partner (of 8 months) where it’s like I’m in a time parallel universe where I’m spending time with my current partner then when we go to sleep. The next day I woke up with my past partner instead then I’m spending time with him. It’s like I’m going back & forth in the dream with in a dream with both guys

  6. Well I haven’t dreamt about my x for a while until last night. I dreamt that he told me he fell in love with me and I looked @ him in shock and said Really? And I was afraid to hug him and he looked @ me came close and kissed me. What does this mean?

  7. Me and my boyfriend of NINE years (& I’m only 27) broke up last year. We tried to be friends, but I loved him so much, I couldn’t handle that.

    I dream of him and his rich & stunning ex some how fighting for him…. but it’s never physical.

    In all the dreams I have about my ex, it’s always about me competing for his attention & love. I haven’t spoken with him in a month & then here comes these dreams that give me panic attack so I wake up with anxiety. Can anyone help?

  8. I had gf for 3 years, now I have new for a year now, but I am still dreaming about my ex since today, nearly every day, that makes me sad and as time goes, its harder to push my sadness away. What should i do? Or what i should not do? Thank you

  9. I have been with my husband for about 7 1/2 yrs and we have 2 kids but he has an 8yr old son with somebody else. I keep having dreams about my husbands baby mama, that we are talking fine and getting along. But sometimes I dream that she wants to get back with him and me and her are fighting! What does this mean?

  10. I. broke up with my x for small issues but he is always in mind..I even dream about him.. what do this indicate

  11. I constantly having my ex in my dreams. I’ve been into different relationships after we broke up and I can say that I’m happy with them even we end up separating our ways too. I can really say that I don’t love him anymore but can’t understand why he constantly appearing on my dreams still as my bf. But I know the last time we spoke last July 2015 that he never stop loving me despite the fact that he’s been married for 18yrs.
    Does it affects me? That’s why he’s always in my dream?

  12. What do you do if you try to tell your ex how u feel but he wont talk to you or even have a conversation but we have a child together its been a year and six months but its still hard for me what should i do when i Dream about the happy memories that we had

  13. My ex had a dream that we had a baby boy together and she said it looked liked me and she loved the feeling of knowing the baby was ours. She doesn’t want to say she loves me when she does. I miss her and listening to that brought my hopes up. What should I do?

  14. What does it mean when you’re boyfriend has a dream where he was about to marry his ex, but changed his mind at the alter? He also said he saw me sitting with the crowd. What does it mean????

  15. i dreamed about my husbands ex wife being sick and me and him staying with her in the hospital she kept looking at me with hate and at him with love also when he helped her i didn’t see any sign that he still loved her could someone help me interpret this dream thanks

  16. I had a dream that me and my ex girlfriend had sex but we never had sex when where together and my ex told me she had a dream that she was pregnant I don’t know if this means anything but WHAT Does This Mean??

  17. I’ve been having several dreams in the past weeks about an ex I broke up with 16 years ago after a 5 year relationship. It was not a clean break up, he ended up stalking me for another 4 years.
    In the past 8 months, I’ve been fighting for my current relationship of 10 years, after finding out in February that he cheated on me.
    My brain is seriously messed up if it thinks that I should dream about that particular ex, because my current relationship isn’t as good as it used to be. The ONLY thing my ex was better at than my current relationship, is giving attention. But nobody wants that kind of attention.


  19. Valan collins on

    Well my dream was of me and my ex sleeping in a motel and him saying i love u i want to be with u the all of the sudden i was scAred and wanted to get me and my daughter out of their i was trying to wale my self up. Im in a great realationship i love my new life jn my new state im just affried he might co
    Come after us i just dont know why i would dream of him i realy camt stamd him and scared to death that he would steal our little girl that he has not even talked to or tryed to rach out to her in five years now his daughter is calling me in facebook could these things be the reason his in my dreams #lost

  20. I broke up with my ex 8 years ago. He was the love of my life. We were only together for a year. I am now married but still have dreams about my ex on a regular basis. Everytime I think I am finally over him, he pops up in my dreams and my emotions are all over the place. I love my husband but my ex was my first love and we broke up without me being able to tell him how much I loved him. I don’t know what to do.

  21. I loved a man for 6 years although we were not typically together through most of it and it was not a good relationship at all. It mostly consisted if him cheating on me or with me on other girls. He was mentally abusive to me. We would end up fighting and he would leave for a month or two but would always come back whether he was with someone else or not. I finally ended everything with me and have now started a new relationship wish an amazing man, but now I dream of my ex at least twice a week. At first, it was dreams of me trying to stay away while he wanted to talk to me again, but just recently it changed to me going on dates with him and everything. It hurts and I feel terrible about it, but I can’t get it to stop. It’s been at least a month since this started happening.

  22. kayleigh jordan on

    I split up with my ex boyfriend a month ago because he left me because we would argue for most of the last couple of weeks we were together because he wasnt treating me good and didnt see how he wasnt and got defensive when i asked why, and since i keep having really random dreams, the day before yesterday i had a dream i was in a car with my ex boyfriend and we got out of the car and he walked off and didnt say nothing to me so i was waiting by the car shivering cold looking around for him and i seen a scary looking man with dark features and dark clothing stood behind a dark car and i got scared by him then last night i had a dream i was back with my ex and we were walking through some woods in the middle of nowhere and we were talking about feelings (i cant remember what exactly we were saying) and as we walked a bit further on we found an old battered looking hut which looked like a large black very dark shed so we just walked back to where we was before but it got dark so we started to walk back and came across the hut again and it had a cracked door so we walked over to the cracked door and looked through the crack in the door and we seen a black shadow go past the door then seen a cracked window in the hut but nothing else so he stood there watching but i screamed and ran away crying scared. Does this have a deeper meaning to do with my break up or is this just a random dream?

  23. tampagirl1978 on

    I dream of my ex at least 4 to 5 times a week. I actually love having these dreams as I miss him dearly and wish we could be in each others lives.

    • I to dream of my ex and miss him a heap but my dreams are always to do with his new pregnant gf. I wish we were in a relationship still as we have an 8m old. Drives me nuts!

  24. i really belive in dreams&also the facts mention above are intersting thats makes me feel to learn more of dreams.seeing seeing ur ex partner z VERY ANNOYING at times

  25. I have been broken up with someone I was seeing for over 10 years. That was 5 years ago. I have dreams time and again of just seeing him, and it breaks my heart all over. I loved this man. I don’t want to have these dreams anymore. I don’t want him back, I just want the pain to stop. I never really had a final say, and was blindsided, I guess. I’m angry with myself for still being upset by this when I dream.

    • WEll 10 years is really a long relationship, i must say i am impressed. But the question is , in that 10 years are you happy with each other, maybe you just got excited to try something new (boyfriend) , and you’ll end up doing uncertain things or hanging up with somebody or vice versa maybe he is. Then it just happened you two ended up into a relationship with a new person maybe him or you. Not the thing is it’s not that easy to let go. You have quite a timebuilding your rea;tionship. and it’s not a joke, IT S 10 years , well you had your good memories as well as bad. I mean there’s no perfect relationship. Me for example, mine is a little different case. I have a serious relationship with the girl i love for almost 5 years ,then suddenly this new girl appeared , I was blinded by her looks well she’s more pretty than my gf that time. I ended up cheating on my gf and ended up with this new girl. Well sad to say the time we put on all the efforts ,all the laughter the tears for 5 years ended up just like that. So I ended up regretting, then boom, all my dreams is about her now. You know the surprise, to make this story short , I ended up breaking with my new gf then come back to her. All of a sudden my new gf did have a new bf that instant, I regret all the time, I ended up losing both og them , I have a nightmares but it was sweet dreams. The nightmare is waking up and realizing how I ended up like this,. I was so sad .

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