Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that often occurs when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning.

Dreaming of your ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

What Does It Mean When You Dream About An Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

Related Dreams: Boyfriend Dreams or Girlfriend Dreams

Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.


Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without truly expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they truly felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of ones feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Are you are convinced that you are meant to be with your ex? It is important to remember that you broke up for a reason. Getting back together will not solve these issues unless you change the root of the problem. This book by Mike Fiore, the creator of best selling “Text Your Romance Back Into Your Life,” is a great option for people who are looking to get the romance back into their lives.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you really cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its own way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more – People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

If you have ever had a cheating dream make sure you read this article: Cheating Dreams – What They Really Mean

Do You Need Help Interpreting Your Ex Dream?

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About Author

Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.


  1. I’m in a middle of dilemma with my bf because his company is moving him to middle east, which is not really a suitable place for both of us. We’re currently on a break untill he get the official letter from his company. Both of us don’t want to do LDR because of our past relationships. I hv been dreaming about him for few times during our break. Last night was weird. I dream that he went to visit me at school (but in real life I’m not studying anymore) and he looked sad and really thin in my dream. I hope in real life he’s not like that.

  2. I had a dream that my ex and I were getting married. It has been five years since I have seen or talked to my ex. I had met my ex at work when I worked at McDonald’s. We had been talking for awhile. I had just gotten out of a nasty relationship. And we instantly clicked into place. After two weeks of just hanging out and being together and having fun I was the first one to tell him that I loved him. And to my surprise he said it back to me. Things were going great for the first year we couldn’t have been happier. Then one little person showed up into our lives I call her the poison. She had so-called step daddy issues. And she didn’t like being in the house alone with him. So she ended up sleeping in my boyfriend’s car. That lasted for a while and every time he came over to see me she was with him. Then the day of rabbit Fest comes. She’s with him again. She goes out to the car to go grab a charger or something. And he tells me that we need to talk. His excuse for breaking up with me that day is that every one of his friends showed up to where he worked and told him that I was cheating on him. And he told me eventually it gets to your head at some point and that’s why he broke up with me. It was a spiteful day. She was all over him when I wasn’t around. Then one night I wake up to the most gut-wrenching feeling I have ever had in my life. I called him up immediately trying to find out what was going on. He told me that she was sleeping in his bed and that he was sleeping on his couch. But I didn’t believe it. No we weren’t back together as a matter of fact we were both still single. But I was so connected to him that I could feel that he had had sex with her. Later on down the road 84 days since he broke up with me to be exact. He arranged a perfect date for us and we went and saw a movie and he asked me back out. I gladly accepted. But then after a while of living together and I was the one working and he was the one that stayed at home and cleaned all you wanted to do was play his video games instead of spend time with me. It was then that I grew irritated and I wanted him to feel the way I felt when he had slept with her. And he had confessed to the reason why he broke up with me is because he wanted her sexually. So I ended up talking to a guy who became a good friend but I was getting a little intimate with him. Because like I said before I wanted him to feel the way I felt. We never ended up doing anything together. And the night I broke up with him we had the most passionate sensual love making that we had ever had. So after all that he moved to North Carolina and as far as I know he has a model for a girlfriend and they have been going strong. But last night I had a dream that he came back and I was so ecstatic to see him and we were getting married very soon. A man that I haven’t seen for going on 6 years still manages to find a way into my dream. And he won’t talk to me so I can have closure. But he still haunts my dreams and I don’t know why.

  3. I am 22 years old, and I’ve been having frequent dreams about my ex the past week. They usually have something to do with me going to meet up with him somewhere in town only for there to be tons of complications on my way to him. When I finally meet up with him (usually at the end of my dream) we talk about the pros and cons of us getting back together from his point of view. It’s like he’s debating on whether it’s worth it or not to be with me again. Even though in real life I was the one who broke up with him because he cheated on me after 2 1/2 years. I can’t explain it and I hate the way it makes me feel because I wake up wondering if I made the right decision breaking up with him almost 3 years ago now. It has me questioning me strength and wondering why I didn’t give him a second chance if clearly I subconciously miss him so much. I just wish the dreams would stop because it’s starting to make me want to get into contact with him & when I broke up with him I was telling myself that I was doing the right thing even though I was deeply in love because I knew I deserved better. It’s all just making me feel so foolish. & the last thing I want to do is try to get into contact with him because of these stupid dreams and get rejected.

  4. Been divorced and remarried. The past couple nights i have been dreaming of my ex. The dreams seem so real to the point i can feel the wind on my face, the brush as someone walks by, etc. Each dream ends with him begging me to forgive him and to take him back. Im happy with my husband and Lord knows that there is nothing to compare. just wish i could make sense of it.

  5. I am 36 and got over my highschool/college 7 years first love. I am now 36 and have never really communicated with her after the fact. Finished school, met my ex-wife and moved from NJ to FL, haven’t thought about my school time love. Yet for past three day’s I have had vivid dreams about her in situation that would be regular. In the last one (last night) I woke thinking WTF……..Wish I knew what it meant.

  6. I was in an abusive relationship with a guy 3 and 1/2 years ago and now he is appearing in my dreams. He keeps trying to grab me but I manage to “fly/float” away. Everywhere I go in my dream he is there and chasing me and I feel like he is going to catch up to me and get me one of these times. It truly freaks me out. As soon as my feet lift off the ground to get away from him he is there and just misses grasping my foot or ankle. It makes my skin crawl and my heart race and I get extremely hot. What does this mean?

  7. A snake bit my ex lover boy (I loved him but he was an addict so I call us lovers not a couple) while he was teasing it or playing with it- similarly to how he would play with my little puppy. I found his interaction with the dog playful and endearing.

    I knew this guy before I married my husband and while my husband and I were separated we found each other again and had another fling. I loved this guy. We were passionate- similar artist type people.

    Well that didn’t last because he loved drugs more tha he respected me and I’m back with my husband because apparently my husband loves me unconditionally and doesn’t care what I did and just thinks every guy is after me anyway so…. He treats me like a princes too. I’ve never been loved so deeply it’s weird.

    Later in my dream my lover boy is at a picnic table that I approach with a puppy and he walks away- dismissing my presence and acting as if he never saw me.

    I always think and wonder about my lover boy- to be honest I wish i could have him AND my husband. We were all three roommates at one time, too. Happiest time of my life.

    My life is weird but damnit. I wanna know if I’m processing the loss of my lover boy or if I should go for him- we were always so strangely connected. I can’t imagine he is not wondering about me.

    Maybe I should tell my husband about this dream.
    But then I’d have to tell him I still care about the lover boy and that would hurt him. I care for my husband too.

  8. I’ve been dreaming about my ex who broke up with me 3 yrs ago. He’s already married and I’ve been single since we broke up. In my dreams, it’s as if I still want him and I even asks about his wife. It’s like I’m checking out if he got a wife that’s better than me. In those dreams, we hang out and it feels like we missed each other as if nothing happened. Whenever I dreamed about him, I’m thinking of sending him a message though we didn’t remain as friends and our last contact was 2 yrs ago. Our breakup was so traumatic to me as I thought that he was the one – even told him to wait for me for another year to get married. I literally gave everything to him and when he broke up with me because of the girl I’m being suspecting of, my whole world just went berserk and I seriously got depressed. I fought for him and our relationship, even made myself look crazy in front of him as I was really lost and so devastated that I can’t do anything to win him back. I can say that I already moved on, but why do I keep on dreaming about him unconsciously. I really want to message him or his mother to share this but I’m thinking what will they think of me. I’d say that I’ve become a hopeless romantic because there are guys who’ve been wanting to know me but it seems that even if I wanted to open myself tobothers, it’s like I have this wall and they can’t reach out to me so they just don’t continue pursuing me. Sometimes I feel that i really need to be in a relationship coz I feel empty and I want to feel loved again. Though I’d say that the breakup really made me independent and strong. And I’m thinking if there will be a guy who will break my wall and accept me as who I am and love me for real. I’d say that my ex did love me but he just didn’t accept the whole me. He wanted a family during our early stages but I was trying live out to the fullest that time and I was the breadwinner so I asked him to wait at this certain age. It was an almost 7 year relationship which I though will last forever. But it didn’t. So there.

    • I’m in a very similar situation too. Although I was married and we divorced around 2 years ago.

      She wasn’t the best person for me to be honest but I loved her unconditionally and gave it everything. She had some amazing qualities though aside from all the bad ones. Now all of a sudden I’m dreaming about her nightly….it’s really stopping me moving on in my life and allowing myself to let someone else in.

    • You sound like me.

      I dreamt of my ex last night with th his wife and child begging for closure. Begging the world to give him the suffering I felt all these years. To take away the happiness he feels. To show him that it’s NOT OK to cheat and hide everything under the carpet.

      I dream and wake up with emotions that I just left him.

      My dreams of him have always meant that in our waking world something big has happened in his life.

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