Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that can happen when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning. Usually dreaming of an ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

Why Do I Keep Dreaming About my Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more - People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

For dreams about cheating see the Cheating dream symbol.

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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.


  1. I had a dream that me and my ex had a child together but we werent dating or married. Instead he had a gf and we were just having share custody of the baby. In the dream i had seen a video on my phone with him and his gf having fun and being happy. In real life he does not have a gf that i know of and we’ve been broken up for a year now

  2. I have reaccuring dreams constantly about my ex- husband we have been divorced for over 26 yrs. I am re-married happily for 12 yrs. the scenario is always different but I am always seeking him out to save me from whatever situations or he is seeking me out to save me. It’s so weird to keep having these dreams all the time. It was never a good marriage but we had 1 child who is grown up with kids whom he never sees & has no involvement in our lives. Help me understand!!!

    • It may not have ever been a great marriage but perhaps certain qualities in him still stick with you. Perhaps he was quite a strong firm figure or very possessive or protective, it’s quite normal for your brain to hold onto certain aspects of someone that perhaps you did like. Maybe your current partner isn’t as fiercely protective etc and your brain is just holding onto and comparing characteristics .. Would not say you have anything to worry about!

  3. I keep having dreams of my child’s father it’s about him and his new girl friend and It makes me sick and I always wake up at five or six in the morning because I can’t sleep my ex sent me a picture of him and her showing me how happy he is and in love and she’s the one for him it breaks my heart and literally make me sick because I’ve been with him for five years on and off and we just stop messing with me for her three months ago and I can’t sleep or go a day with out this on my mind and it’s effecting my sleep … do any one have any type of help or suggestions? ??

  4. My ex husband frequently appears in my dreams, its depressing the hell out of me. Im having to ring CSA every month for maintenance payments. I dream he either turns up wanting me back or im telling him exactly how i feel about him and that’s not good! There is a lot of bitterness between us. I have a bf and dreaming about my ex upsets me.

  5. i always dream my ex boyfriend since he broke up with me, maybe because i still wanting him and until now i still love me but some part of me i want to know the reason why he broke up with me the last time we talk only in phone he was angry and i dOnt know why and he want to finish our relationship after that he never contact me, after a few weeks i got a news he already had a new girl it hurts but i still dreaming of him please anyone can help me.

  6. My dream about my ex is happened most of the time. We broke up 5 yrs ago and I am now happy with my partner.
    But from time to time, I dreamed about my ex. Last night was about him, looking for me and waiting for me in the hotel like before.
    I was really wanting to see him but worried coz my partner might knows. I saw his face so eager to get me back and it seems so real.
    Most of the venue was the places where we used to go and then ended up in my moms. That dreams remind me during our relationship, when I dreamed about him, I always seeing his email and is always happened so I did check my email assuming that he might get in touch with me BUT not this time.
    We had a good times for the past 8 yrs and we broke up in a nice way. Whatever my dreams means, it worried me.

    Hope someone will help me to understand my drema.


  7. actually i am attaracted towards the girl during my college days and i thought itz just an infactuation but i keep on thinking about her so i thought i started loving her and she never talk to a stranger so i just see her from a distance and even i spoiled my career thinking about her so after the coll days are over i tried to talk to her but she never speak to me even if she said no i will be happy but she never did so i worked for one year in a company and try to make some friends to forget her but not she keep on coming in my dreams and i cant do anywork even i stop thinking about her this fucking dream disturb me i really want to forget that bitch …….so please help me to forget her completely…….

  8. I haven’t been with my ex for jus over 3 yrs ago but recently started havin dreams about him and can’t stop thinkin bout him thro the day now we had a terrable relationship he wud mentally abuse me n wud often hurt me physically in front of my kids. I hated him I got him arrested and charged and now I just don’t understNd why I keep thinkin and dreaming about him

  9. I broke up with my exboyfriend 3 years ago and haven’t dated or been interested in anyone ever since . Somehow, i find myself having dreams about him and they keep on happening more frecuently , atleast twice a month now … My latest dream about him was that we were getting married but we were at my house with normal clothes on , and we didn’t sign anything .. It’s like we were just getting married and i actually didn’t mind . I’m really confused can somebody please help and tell me what this means ?

  10. I am 8 weeks pregnant and me and my boyfriend arnt really in a good place right now I have been dreaming of my ex almost every night I was with him for almost 2 years we lived together and after he cheated I left I am now really good friends with him and consider his family my family we have both moved on and are seeing other people and I’m pregnant with my boyfriends baby I’m not sure what this means

  11. I was with my ex Leann 5 years engaged with 3 miscarriages and twin 20 mnt old girls. I was at my sister and my ex took kids n wiped my house clean left me broke and behind bills bad. We been broke up since aug 25 2013.. She started going out all nite not coming home said she wants to be single but yet. The day she moves out she’s with some 1 (cheated) ???
    Now I have dreams of her where I tell her I love her and want her back.. And I ask her if she wants to be with me in the dream she says yes n hugs n kisses me n holds on tight.. Lil help please

  12. I have recently got into a new relationship, but I think I am still in love with my ex!!!!!!!! I cannot stop dreaming of good times we had, I miss him. And I feel guilty

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