Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that often occurs when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup, or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and know the meaning.

Dreaming of your ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex-lovers are quite common for individuals who have gone through painful breakups and still have lingering feelings.

Since there is no universal meaning of dreams about an ex-partner or lover, it is important that you look at your specific situation from your own context. The following article will help guide you to some different interpretations that these dreams could mean, but you are ultimately the one who has to decide the meaning of your dream.

What Does It Mean When You Dream About An Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is visiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming of being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex-lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex-partner had that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex-boyfriend that was great with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually, people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period when life was “more straightforward.” Sometimes that period will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex-does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them.”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually, these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you that you need to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

Read This: 11 Reasons Why You Have Dreams About Your Ex

Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex-proposing or even marrying an ex-boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without actually expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they actually felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of one’s feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex, there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually, it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also say that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new, then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex- partner may signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship, it is important to look at the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Are you are convinced that you are meant to be with your ex? It is important to remember that you broke up for a reason. Getting back together will not solve these issues unless you change the root of the problem. This book by Mike Fiore, the creator of best selling “Text Your Romance Back Into Your Life,” is a great option for people who are looking to get the romance back into their lives.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship, and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually, these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have to your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more – People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship, and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex-meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex-partner does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can say you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened to you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex-lover are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are no signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

If you have ever had a cheating dream make sure you read this article: Cheating Dreams – What They Mean

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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for Dream Stop and has been working in the field of dreams for the past decade. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. These interpretations are for entertainment purposes only. Stephen's interpretations should be considered an opinion, not professional advice.


  1. Well, I’m young and I had a dream about an ex that I still somewhat like. In that dream I seen both of us around our 60’s outside of my house but not my house. I was walking to the side where he tackled me and we started laughing and kissing each other while rolling in the grass. I looked around but not my dream self for they or I was still attached to him and I seen beautiful views like the sky was a sunset violet blue, pink and yellow color while the season seemed like autumn. For some reason the air smelled sweet it was sorta hard to pinpoint the smell. But as I continue looking away a pinto/paint came out of nowhere with Indian reins on it with my ex on the horses back as it changed from black and white to brown and white. He looked strong yet still in his 60’s but he also looked sad. I could still hear our other selves giggling but when my ex and the horse noticed me looking at them the horse reared up and he looked sad. And than everything started fading, when everything faded to nothing but black I saw his blue stricken eyes that looked at me with sadness before I woke up. Could you please help me understand this?

  2. I was devastated. Paul turned against me overnight without any warning. It happened last year, I was desperate so I used every single website that I could find with no results. A friend sent me the link of Robinson Buckler site and I contacted him. He started working with me on June. As a result from all of his wonderful work, my man and I are back together. I’m so happy and privileged to have such a great person like you on my side. Thank you! contact [email protected] [yahoo]. com

  3. I had the strangest dream last night. I dreamed of a guy I was with 20 years ago and had a painful breakup with. In the dream I painted him a picture and gave it to him. Then he sat down and painted two pictures and gave them to me. When I unrolled them to look they were really beautiful like black sketches and I was blown away at how amazing they were. Then I woke up. What does this mean?

  4. Hi.. actually I need an advise here about my ex.. its been 3 years we haven’t connected through each other and suddenly this dreaming of my ex keep happen from last year..I don’t know exactly what happen but I do keep wondering why my ex recently appear in my dreams untill now and I hope somebody or someone can explain to me what it is about.. thanks..

    • My future partner has been honest and told me he has left me in his dream to get back with his ex wife. He has no desire to get back with her and is very honest about things. We are very happy with a 18 month old son, but when he separated from his ex wife he was seeing his daughters on a regular basis but once she found out I was pregnant it all changed.. my partner hasn’t seen his daughters now age 7 and 13 a for 16 months and when he has bumped into them they have ran off.. I am sure that it’s possibly the fact that he is revisiting a time in his life when he was living with his ex and the daughters Or is he really missing the ex???

  5. Jenny Baxter on

    I broke up with my ex 8 months ago and I am trying to move on with someone else, it wasn’t the best relationship and I know I shouldn’t go back but I had a dream that I tried to get him back but he turned me down as he wa seeing a friend of mine who he actually slept would shortly after. Then the person I am currently seeing was upset in my dream.

    • Please help me to explain what the reason why I dreamed about ex gf of my husband in my dreamed my husband introduced to me and he told me that he will leave me now and my 3kids and he will come with her ex instead of our family…

  6. I dreamed about my ex we have kids together we have been broken up for 9 years and he’s still the worst he hardly see our kids maybe once a year he’s a bad person but he has a lot of health issues now he also has a wild girlfriend that is heavy into drugs any way I dreamed that we were in a church with our kids and he was there like he was father of the year and I laid in on him I dreamed I got up and done a testimony all about him and how bad of a parent he is lol also we have three kids but only 2 were in this dream he never wanted to claim the youngest so is this why he wasn’t shown?? Please help me understand this dream it was very emotional to me because I felt he needed to be blasted in front of a crowd and they know the full truth behind him I enjoyed exposing him

  7. Am 22 I have to amazing kids with my partner we have been together for 6 years now but I keep having dreams of me and my ex girlfriend who was my first true love and who I and everyone thought would be together for ever but one day all of a sudden she ended things with me the day before Valentine’s Day over the phone with no explanation just that we’re over now 6 years later when I haven’t seen or spoken to her since we split I keep having the same dream of use living together and have kids it’ always starts with am in bed with my ex have sex then we cuddle in fall a sleep with each other and then we wake up in the morning get the kids ready for nursery we kiss each other good by I take the kids to nursery she goes to work then I go about my day then we are all back home having dinner talk laughing enjoying everything and it all feels so real then I wake up all of a sudden and I feel so guilty about it does anyone have any idea what this could mean

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  9. I just recently dreamed about my ex-boyfriend, who i never thought of before going to sleep but i end up dreaming about it. In my dream i just dreamed about selling year books with my church members but one of the girls said something about “what if blank(not saying his name) comes. ” The rest of the girls and I was like “no it cant,” “theres no way” and soon enough my ex came and the girls, and i was surprised, we never expect him to come. As i analyzed, when he saw me he freaked and left but the next thing i know i came to a room with my girls and i saw him again but this time he was drinking and he still got freaked out by seeing me but i didn’t really about him at all. That’s all can you tell me the meaning? I really don’t understand it.(p.s i been dating my current boyfriend for 1 year and 3 months)

  10. I just recently dreamed about my ex-boyfriend, who i never thought of before going to sleep but i end up dreaming about it. In my dream i just dreamed about selling year books with my church members but one of the girls said something about “what if blank(not saying his name) comes. ” The rest of the girls and I was like “no it cant,” “theres no way” and soon enough my ex came and the girls, and i was surprised, we never expect him to come. As i analyzed, when he saw me he freaked and left but the next thing i know i came to a room with my girls and i saw him again but this time he was drinking and he still got freaked out by seeing me but i didn’t really about him at all. That’s all can you tell me the meaning? I really don’t understand it.

  11. So I have had many dreams and occurrences that I’m not sure what they mean. I’m a high believer in horoscopes. One of my lucky days for February 2018, is February 14th, which is Valentine’s Day. Last week ( February 5-11, 2018) I had a dream, where I was at school, talking about how only two of my friends are gonna be in a relationship for Valentine’s Day. Which only one of them is in a relationship currently. And I said actually I’m in a relationship with my ex. And then I had a dream last night, (February 10, 2018) where my ex confessed his love for me, and we were together again. Does this mean anything? I doubt it does, but I thought i would ask. And yes I know, i’m still in love with him.

  12. Going through my breakup can be described as two speeding trains hitting one another. It was a ten year relationship that ended in a week.
    I can’t shift blame forever. Some was hers and some were mine.
    But just having a dream of your first has memories smashing their way back.
    I miss her for sure, but for reasons untold, it wasn’t meant to be.

  13. Ok, so I had a dream, and it was about me cheating on my current boyfriend who I love and he’s way better than my ex, my ex was a little to head strong for me. Let me tell you about the dream, I was texting my boyfriend in the morning, getting ready to go to school and i started thinking about my ex, I didn’t mention it to my bf, and I got to school, I was in my office aiding period, when he shows up, he immediately asks me take him back I said sure. (I never would of said sure in rl) so we were together, and we were hanging out, then I decided to tell him, ” you know I’m cheating on my bf with you, he starts crying, he grabs my throat, squeezes, and says “if I could slap u hard right now I would.” And I woke up. Can somebody interpret that dream please.

  14. I had a lucid dream.of my ex from 20 years ago that I left. The dream was about us getting back together and had a baby. I found him on Facebook after this dream and we hooked up. He wanted us to be together again but I didn’t even tho I thought I did through the years. He was my first love but after seeing him again after 20 years, my feeling weren’t as Strong. Now I’m dreaming about another ex, but this time I will stay away even tho I think I might still have feelings. I don’t think it will be the same if I see him too.

  15. I dream a lot about my ex of 3 years. We lived together, I helped raise his daughter, and he was my first love. It was a good relationship for the most part, but we had our issues and I had asked him to go to couples counciling multiple times but he never agreed even knowing we were on the brink of breaking up. I miss him dearly, but he is so angry at me for ending things he’s blocked me on Facebook as well as my phone number. I’m not sure if my dreams mean that I want to get back together with him or if I should try to move on with my life. Jordan, if you’re reading this and you’re experiencing similar feelings and dreams, please contact me so we can figure things out.

  16. I just woke up from my dream about my ex. I was trying to leave the area he was working at and all of a sudden, someone I didn’t like back in school stopped me and told me that some female was talking about me. I just woke up before I know what happened next

  17. I dream my ex girlfriend who left me 3 years ago but after 3 years I recently seeing her in my dreams almost regularly what is that mean She was also my first love.

  18. Daisey Stockbauer on

    I had a dream about my ex boyfriend Tommy last night… he was a good step dad to my lil girls.. anyways I do miss him and wish we where back together.. we webt out 3 weeks ago to the bar bec it was our friend birthday we where talking having fun we where talking about my boyfriend and then his girlfriend and I could see that it was getting wired.. I really miss him

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  19. I had a dream about my ex-husband last night, he went missing. Our relationship was extremely hurtful…he done things to me that I believe changed the person I use to be. When I see him today, I work for his mom, it almost turns my stomach. Can you help explain what I might be feeling? I know I’m over him. It’s just weird I had him in a dream.

  20. I do dreams alot of my 3yrs ex boyfriend, EVERYDAY, and those scenarios in my mind’s dream are just like real , you feel the pain, happiness and jealousy . I admit yes, Im still love my ex boyfriend even if we already separated a year and a half ago but I don’t know if its true that , If u had a dream that you and your ex boyfriend get back together there’s still hope for both of you in the future ? or Im just simply miss the whole HIM?

    • Lambros Papalambrou on

      Just try to move on dear… Unfortunately the truth is if he still had feelings about you you wouldn’t be here reading this article… Find the power to stand up on your feet again and hope for full recovery…

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