Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that often occurs when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning.

Dreaming of your ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

Why Do I Keep Dreaming About my Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

Related Dreams: Boyfriend Dreams or Girlfriend Dreams

Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.


Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without truly expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they truly felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of ones feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Are you are convinced that you are meant to be with your ex? It is important to remember that you broke up for a reason. Getting back together will not solve these issues unless you change the root of the problem. This book by Mike Fiore, the creator of best selling “Text Your Romance Back Into Your Life,” is a great option for people who are looking to get the romance back into their lives.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you really cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its own way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more – People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

If you have ever had a cheating dream make sure you read this article: Cheating Dreams – What They Really Mean

Do You Need Help Interpreting Your Ex Dream?

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About Author

Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.


  1. I have been dreaming about my boyfriend/ ex boyfriend now since the day I met him 2 1/2 yrs ago. My dreams aren’t always about him but he is always there somewhere in the background. We broke up 2 months ago and I wake up every single day in tears feeling like a part of me is missing. I don’t want to dream about him anymore but I can’t make it stop. When my dreams are about him it is just us living our life together happy. Just normal daily activities. I wake up every morning thinking he is next to me for just a moment before I realize it was just a dream. How do I make this stop? I just want to forget him but my mind won’t let me.

  2. Just had a dream about my ex that I still see sometimes last night we kinda said we were going to stop talking i woke up at 6am today say a text that said I’m moving to wauksha I’m taking your advice I never responded so I went back to sleep had a dream about him getting someone pregnant and I started crying in my dream and as I was trying to wake up pull myself out the dream I was crying for real ….this is so wired this is not the first time this has happen to me about him yes he is my first love someone plz help me I’m still in love with this mad and want us to work out

  3. I broke up with him 3 months ago n moved away. I didn’t want it to end but It wasn’t meant to be. He cheated twice n just didn’t know want he wanted n I didn’t trust him anymore. Now n the dream I was in his house while he was gone. I walk into the bed room n see a woman sleep n the bed. As i go to leave there’s cops waiting for me which ends up being related to the woman n the house. As I explain that Im there to surprise him for a sexual encounter. I show texts of us talking about hooking up to her to justify that I’m not a crazy ex. Then she calls my ex to tell him to tell the cops not to take me to jail. Then I wake up. Once I did end it wit him we did hook up a few times one time after he told me he was seeing someone else.

  4. My ex and I broke up over 3 years ago he is married now and has kids basically had to force him out of my life even being married. I’m getting married soon and had the oddest dream of my ex of him telling me he always loved me and always will and I need to choose. Well to say the least I’m not going back to sleep

  5. I had my first love in late high school. We were together for about three years, though through that time I don’t think they cared for me half as much as I did for me. They were very cruel to me and though they didn’t harm me physically they would humiliate me in front of friends, make comments about my appearance and intelligence, and just generally be very nasty. In the time we were together they never wanted to have sex, which was a huge source of insecurity and made me feel useless and inadequate. I wanted to break up earlier, but they freaked out and begged me to stay so I did. Later, about a year or so after, I became very dependent due to depression, anxiety and deep self loathing because of the consistent emotional taunting and cruelty. They wanted to break up with me, which I vehemently troed to prevent, trying to change myself in any way possible to be better.
    Eventually it fell apart and I went to a hospital for an inpatient program regarding msntal health because of suicidal ideation. I cut off all contact with them and all of the people I knew who were connected to the situation. I got out of the hospital and slowly recovered, and I spoke to my ex about a year later to try to talk, and it mostly ended with them being frustrated that I was telling them how I was doing. So since the break-up, I’ve been trying tp let go completely. I am still terrified of seeing them publicly, but at least I do not feel depressed all the time from being alone.
    It’s been about two years now, but this week has been brimming with dreams of them just holding me and saying they loved me, and one where we had sex. In the latest one, I told them I loved them. I woke up crying.
    I am very ashamed that this is still plaguing me and I feel very weak. In my waking state I like to believe I don’t love them, because in hindsight their personality is contrary to mine and their mannerisms revolt me – but when I wake up I feel very sad and confused. I just want to forget them. Why would I pine for someone who treated me badly? Is it because I know they could love somebody else, or because I’ve acknowledged they aren’t a monster? I don’t want to see them again and I just want to meet someone else. How do I get rid of these painful dreams?

  6. I dreamt about my ex.
    We broke up a week ago after a fight that left me broken and shattered.
    I miss the good times we had, we practically saw everyday but had slight issues that grew to big issues.
    I wasn’t happy in the relationship and a talk with him became a fight.

    I dreamt bout him this morning. We kissed deeply, with no words at all and made up. A part of me wants that, the other part feels empty without him.

    What does this dream mean?
    It felt so real!

  7. Hi I’m have troubles finding advice on my dream. My dream is a dream about my ex not only that but I’m cheating on my current before and was enjoying and then I got this massive wave of guilty and wanted it to end.
    With My situation I can not see why it happened I have it every couple of months same ex but instead of cheating it sound much like these situations but this time got me worried. I enjoy my relationship with my boyfriend it’s quiet strong and we are moving forward together in our lives like getting a house an he has a kid so I’m not lacking stuff from the relationship, only detail that would link is that the ex had added me I. Facebook the other day would that have anything to do with it?

  8. Hi! I had a boyfriend for 14 months. When we were at 10 months I wanted to break up but he ignored it so we continued dating. This relationship was mentally heavy for me due to my personal problems and his. Later he tried to break up but I didnt let him go. We’ve both cheated but we were honest about it from the start. We had a long distance relationship. Our relationship was very secretly and I didnt like that. I found out that he started another relationship in our last month. Since then we didn’t talk. That was 2 months ago. I didnt cry or anything i was very relieved and rested. He texted me last month telling me that he was sorry for treating me badly and that he still loves me, I’m still his and is in love with me. He now understands me because he gets treated like he treated me sometimes. Him and his girlfriend are all over social media. He wanted to end the relationship with her due to her pregnancy and he isnt ready. She is older and been engaged with a boy who hit her. So now she likes to play victim in the relationship she started a month after her own break up and my ex used to be the victim in our relationship. Anyways he called me several times telling me how much he misses me and wants me and even want to meet up. Next week he is going to italy with his girlfriend (he despites this). Soo now 2 months after the relationship between us stopped i was talking about him before I went to bed and I’ve dreamt that he and I were on a ski vacation and were having fun and were cosy. Later I dreamt that i bumped into him at the treinstation (just like where we used to meet) and he was so happy to see me so he hugged and kissed me. He took me with him to a friends house and he was all touchy and expressing his feelings which is rare for him but he can only be himself with me and not with his new girlfiend. I woke up so scared of the thought of me not being able to help him and feeling that he isnt comfortable. He’s in the wrong relationship. He knows it, his mom knows it, I know it but the new girlfriend doesn’t have a clue OR she’s lying to herself.

  9. In my dream i ran into my ex boyfriend. He and I were avoiding locking eyes. We kept walking by each other and everytime my heart would drop. I was so nervous. I think this was more of a nightmare than a dream. Since in real life i seem to run into him all the time and he is always with someone new. On our last encounter i was laughing outside and he must of recognized my voice, he came out looking around and his eyes were big when he saw me.

    He is now married and has a newborn baby so no chance of getting back together unless he decides that relationship does not work out.

  10. Well I’m going to explain the situation I am in first then the dream. My husband and I have been doing really good the past few days. But he had lost his job. So we were both looking for jobs but with a deadline because we have bills to pay. And I don’t know why but last Tuesday he told me he was done and he couldn’t do it anymore. We have two kids together. And until today I still don’t understand why he left. And yes I am trying to get him back I am trying to get him to talk to me.. Well my dream was about that we had talked And he said yes about getting back together but that he had tell me something and he told me that he had had sex with someone else while we weren’t together And it was this girl from pizza hut. And we drove over there and I confronted her telling her why she would sleep with a married man that has kids especially when she sees us go in occasionally. And I started beating up on her then afterwards we left together.. And everything was okay. Then after waking up to my crying daughter I had fallen back to sleep and dreamnt that I had beaten her up pretty bad and he was a little angry at me and my mother in law was a little angry at me to and asking me why did I do that.

    I am hoping and praying everyday that he can talk to me and tell me what is going on with Jim and why he left like that. I have been crying for days.. I can’t eat, I can barely sleep. But I am constantly thinking about him. About us. About what did I do wrong.

  11. I guess I dreamt about my past lover because in my current relationship, I’ve been going through constant arguments that lasted for days. It got too much at one point and I really just had enough. Its just draining, you know.
    In my dream I walked away from my boyfriend while he was yelling at me n walking after me in this broken castle. As I continued to walk away into different rooms, I saw my past lover.
    “Now my past lover, he is those type of guys that would walk a mile and more just for you. He litterally walked a really far distance to visit me and we didn’t even date but he made his feelings known to me. It never worked out because of a stupid thing. ”
    And in the dream it was like that scene in Titanic, when Rose looked up to Jack standing on top of the staircase. I walked up to him and we run away together and spent our time just gazing into each others eyes lOl
    Cheating in my dream because I probably feel unsatisfied in my relationship but I know its just a bump in the road.
    Thanx for the dream Info!

  12. I keep having dreams of my ex and I really don’t understand the meaning behind all the constant, well…him. It always starts the same he’s treating me like I’m nothing while his new partner is there, but as soon as she leaves…his eyes are fixed on me. He smiles and love shines in his eyes like when we were dating. I don’t recall how I am in the dreams, but he…it’s as if we never broke up. He would invite me to go places he was supposed to go with her, heck it’s as if she doesn’t matter and the only thing that does matter to him…is me. Every night its the same thing. Same smile. Same warm loving eyes. Same waking up with a re-opened wound. Can anyone please help me understand these reoccurring dreams?

  13. Since last week i kept dreaming of my ex boyfriend, whom we broke up 2 months ago.I dreamt that he asked me out and last night I dreamt that I asked him out but, he didn’t show up. When i woke up and find out it was unreal i was gon cry. am in a new relationship but it may as well not work out.I can’ stop talking about him, posting his pics with regrets. As I said, it has been almost 2 months since we broke up why all this is happening now. All I see is his name, moments we had come back to life now.Am so confused

  14. I had a dream that I needed somewhere to sleep for the night and my ex allowed me to stay with him for the night. I got to his house before him and was excited to see him. When he got to the house he brought he new girlfriend with him, that is his actual girlfriend in real life. I was nervous to see her because I didn’t know what was happening and was confused why he would bring her. She was surprisingly nice to me, but displayed a forced nice act. Some more friends came over though and we was all hanging out. A particular guy was paying me a lot of attention but I didn’t really want to talk with him. I was feeling alone and low, trying to hide the fact that I wanted my ex’s attention instead. Out of nowhere my current boyfriend in real life shows up and makes me laugh and become happy. Then I wake up. What does this dream mean?

  15. I keep having the same dream about my ex. He’s there, he wants me back. He’s affectionate but I’m not receptive, I’m waiting on my fiancĂ© to show up. He always shows up out of no where, and then my ex shows his true colors (he’s a bit of a child when he doesn’t get his way).
    Wondering if that’s because I don’t feel vindicated in the way our relationship ended, or if that’s my mind’s way of telling me that I don’t have to worry that the occasional, random thought of him doesn’t mean I’m still in love with him.

  16. I broke up with my ex fiance and called off the wedding. After 11 months I’m now in an awesome relationship with an unbelievable great man. We just moved in together too. Well I had a dream last night it was me, my current boyfriend, my ex and his new girlfriend in this dream we all congratulated eachother but it was more so she and I doing the congratulating. In this dream my ex and I couldn’t even make eye contact with eachother. I woke up confused as to the meaning of this dream. I’m usually really good at it but this one has thrown me for a loop. Yes I still have lingering unresolved feelings but dudes a total jerk. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank You

  17. I dream about my first love often who I met in middle school over 25 years ago. We stared dating in 8th grade then his family moved out of state. Throughout high school, and college our families allowed us to visit each other however, in between those times we still lived our lives. Eventually due to life, visits became less and less and we started dating other people and living the college life and stayed in touch and visit when we could. Life went on I had a daughter first with someone I was seeing and he got married to a person he got pregnant in college. Pushing forward to our late 30’s I got married now mid 40’s we’re both in marriages that are unfulfilled but we still have kids in school, the love is still there, and we still stay in touch from time to time.
    In my dreams I see him with a group of friends ,I’m usually with mine “our childhood friends, who are still friends since day one.
    I instantly get nervous making sure I look ok before I approach him. We’re both so happy to be in each others presence until we’re pulled away by someone who needs our attention. Then I wake up. This happens each time.

  18. Hi I’ve been dreaming about my ex who I’ve been split up now with for nearly 5yrs, we was in a long term relationship for 11yrs with 3kids and broke up due to him cheating with my brothers girlfriend who he now has 2kids with. I’m in a relationship with someone I truely love we have been together a yr and a hlf. My dream is very strange because my boyfriend I have now is them too :-\ I’m flirting with my ex while my boyfriend is there, I dnt remember much but there no kids involved I dnt know where we are, we seem young but I seem like I’m betraying my boyfriend now like I am cheating on him in my dream

  19. I’m married and pregnant with our first child…I’ve been having dreams about this guy that I was head over heels about, when I was younger. He’s married now. Has 2 kids. Maybe even a third one on the way? In my dreams, it always seems like he made a mistake marrying the woman he did and he wants to be with me..But we both know it can’t happen..And in my dream, I so badly want to know how life would’ve turned out with him..
    I realized I have these dreams whenever my husband and I argue and don’t resolve anything before going to bed. It’s so frustrating! I’m left confused and now I can’t help but wonder “what if?” )): I’m very happy with my marriage. He’s a great guy. But probably the complete opposite of the guy I first fell in love with.

  20. I have known my boyfriend for almost 2 years but have been dating for almost 10 months which could’ve been more lol. Anyways I’ve been dreaming about my ex (which dated 3 years for 2 months and a half, ) since we started dating up until now. After we broke up I’ve been dreaming about him but it’s always the same thing. All of my dreams about him are about him trying to talk to me but I don’t want to to talk to him and end up walking away. Last night was different which was when we were in school which we both went to, we bumped into each other. I didn’t want to talk to him but he ended saying hi, as well as I did and just started talking for a bit just to catch up but I ended up leaving because I didn’t want to talk to him anymore because I felt bad and didn’t want my current boyfriend getting mad at me. I feel guilty dreaming about my ex and tell my boyfriend, which I know is not a good idea but I want him to help me out on why I’m dreaming about my ex but it always the same dream. I need help please?!

  21. Michelle Wan on

    My ex boyfriend and I have broke up for 2 months+. He got into a new relationship right after we break up. Since then, I have been constantly dreaming about him. At the very beginning right after break up, I dreamt that we were still together. And recently, I dreamt about him ignoring me and last night, I dreamt looking at his pictures with his new girlfriend. They went to a place and took lotsss of sweet photo.
    Does it means Im slowly over him? I have already accepted the fact that he has a new life now.

  22. I had a dream of my ex. In my dream she was in an abusive relationship and while she was being beat by her man. I went to her rescue. I got to her place and handled business while she watched. Once I finished kicking her boyfriends ass and sent him on his way. She ran to me to hug me and tell me how sorry she was to have had let me go. I on the other hand didn’t want anything in return. I just wanted to help her out. What can this mean? I’m in a new relationship and I didn’t think I would have dreamed about my ex.

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