Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that can happen when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning. Usually dreaming of an ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

Why Do I Keep Dreaming About my Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without truly expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they truly felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of ones feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you really cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its own way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more - People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.


  1. Cupcake_Girl on

    I recently had a dream of my ex boyfriend cheating on me. I might know why it happened but I’m not sure. He currently still lives with me a my mother and lay night he came home from work at 1:30am. I’ve been so pissed at him cuz he had a side girl whom he promised he didn’t have but i ended up finding out with some other things. My dream was him coming home from work late but instead of coming to me he was walking away holding hands with another girls and being all lovey. I think it might mean I’m even scared too try to be with him again cuz know he wants to.

  2. I’ve been single for three years now since I broke up with my ex. But I have this strange feeling of dreaming about my ex almost every month since the break up. In my dream, he always appear to be making things straight with me. We appear to be happy, in love and have the possibility of going back together. It’s like my dreams are literal. However, the truth is, we don’t have any communication after the break up and worst is, I think, he hates me a lot. What does it mean? Are we going back together again? Am I still in love with my ex? It’s been three years now and I am still single. I don’t want to be stucked in this dream. :(

  3. I have not been with my ex in twenty years and have a child in common with him.I have dreams about him alot.I have spent the last twenty years in a dissatisfying relationship.I am really unsure of why?

  4. I was having a bad dream of some of my past things I have been through. Apparently I was whimpering in my sleep. My fiancé nudged me abut instead of saying my name he called me by his ex wife’s name… Twice. He is almost done going through the divorce and she has treated him very poorly. It’s not the first time he has accidentally called me by her name. He was half asleep when he did it, does this mean he still has unresolved feelings for her?

  5. I have been having dreams about my ex, who is my son’s father. he hasn’t been around in the past 4 almost 5 months. He is in jail and wont get out till after the new year. I am back in a relationship with my high school sweetheart, and i am very happy. but for the past week ive been having sexual dreams about my son’s father. I have no desire to be with him. He did alot to me that i cant forgive right now. But the dreams are nice dreams of nice memories and are highly sexual. I want to know why I might be having these dreams about him, knowing i have no feelings towards him and i am very happy with the person i am with now. any suggestions?

  6. It is Sunday 6:51 am 11/23/14

    I just had a dream of my current gf of 1 year meeting my ex gf of 5 years and both end up hooking up but my current gf and ex want to continue to see each other on a another level.

    That didn’t wake me up

    What did was how I reacted in my dream

    I refuse with the most hate to see my ex with my current gf on any other level nor couldn’t stand the fact that they were in the same room together and the fact they already had exchanged #’s.

  7. I have ben having dreams about my ex. We were good friends before and we both liked eachother, but when we got together it was as if we were always ignoring eachother, so we broke up and decided to stay friends. I just remember he was in my dreams a lot for the past month, the latest ine I had just barely, and we beat up and unnamed person together. I am not in any relationship right now, I have no clue what it means.

  8. My ex and I were together 15 years and gave 2 daughters together. I was the one that wanted the divorce and he was devistated. We have been divorced for almost 4 years and we both have been in other relationships. I’m in nursing school and not currently in a relationship because im focusing on school. He however is in a relationship and has told me before that he does like the idea that she has 2 young kids because ours are 19 & 16. I have had a couple dreams lately that he is coming and talking to me about not being happy and doesn’t know what to do.

  9. I’ve been having dreams about my ex for about 5 years they come and go usually they’re really nice dreams about him I was so in love with him I’ve been with my partner now for 4 years and I thought the dreams it stopped a month or so ago but last night I had another except this time he was mad and yelling that he hated me something I’ve never experienced any of my other dreams its always been loving and just really exciting to see him in the dream but when I wake up I feel super bad because I wake up next to someone elseI really want to dream. But I really want to know what it meant

  10. Had a dream were am married to my current husband and my ex bf walks in a hotel elevator (were am staying) after he spotted me going in. He says “hey” am sorry for all the things that I put you through. You should be married to me. I never wanted you to get rid of our child together (short story we were teenage lovers than broke up because of his family pressuring me to have an abortion and the stress afterwards,split us up)

    He takes my hands in the lift and says “Sandra marry me please” stop living this lie with your husband.

    My dream cuts to all the difference places we made love,fields,cars,abandon trains…list is endless.we were together only18 months. (in real life he as a son with a ex girlfriend who he never sees & I’ve been married to my husband for 4years together for 8 our sons are 2months apart in age,my son being older)

    I say okay

    • Morgan Harrison on

      I have been with my current boy friend for 2.5 years and I love him.
      Last night I dreamt that I hooked up with a guy that was in my 4th grade class which was over 10 years ago while my boy was on a business trip, so I cheated and my friends tild my boyfriend and he dumped me. What does this even mean???

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