Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that can happen when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning. Usually dreaming of an ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

Why Do I Keep Dreaming About my Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without truly expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they truly felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of ones feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

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If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you really cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its own way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more - People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

For dreams about cheating see the Cheating dream symbol.


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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.


  1. dimayra barrientos on

    I had a dream with my ex boyfriend. I called him and a female picked up his phone saying to leave my ex alone that his in a new relationship he doesn’t want nothing to do with you but then all of a sudden we are in an airport while he’s walking on the plane he gave me the saddest face.

  2. Lift my ex-boyfriend of 14 yrs. Had 3 children from the relationship.I have gotten married to a guy who I have a kindred connection with we have been married gong on 6 yrs and going strong. But for the last 3 or 4 yrs. I have been having dreams /nightmares involving my ex! No , I know I have no love connection and no desires to reconnect ! Reason being this relationship was unhealthy for specific reasons and it became verbal and physically abusive towards the last 8 yr of it’s course.All trust love and admiration had all but disappeared! So now that I am and have found peace and love on more healthier level this nagging existence that stripped me of dignity, serlf respect and love for God, myself and family the pain and humiliation comes to me in my dreams I am constantly reminded of the lies told to me , the. Cheating, the phycial pain associated with slaps, socks to eyes, choking the life from me and having to scratch my neck up to just get away and live to see another day! This trauma which I am determined to not let it undermine my love and respect I have with my husband has even creeped into my rational being and severed my emotional being to almost a non-existing feeling! I wonder if taking this lack of healing to a greater height to once and for all put this monster to rest!

  3. Donald howard on

    I had just got dumped from my ex girlfriend for the fifth time. This time she wss angry. She is in love with her first husband who happens to be remarried. She found out that he is divorcing and will go with him if he can produce documents that prove he is divorcing. She has been waiting for him for years. I realized I was waiting for her and our relationship would be based on his answer. I lied that I called him up just to get an answer from her. I told her the truth and she angerily dumped me by leaving the stuff I gave her on my doorstep
    I realized all of these four years being off and on with her that I was a backup plan.
    I had a dream that I was with a bunch of guys with guns trying to stop a killer. This tall nude woman came up to us attempting to shoot us. We surrounded her as she just stood there with her gun dropped at her side. She wss looking at everyone of us slowly turning her nude body around. What does this dream mean?

  4. so lately, like the last few days [maybe the past week even], I’ve been having dreams about my ex boyfriend. About us getting back together as a couple and being happy together even after the jerk he was post break up. Now I don’t know why I’m having these dreams about him and it bugs me.

    We broke up back in November and his mom, whom I work with, told me the only reason he broke up with me because he was scared because it was going so well, though he told me through a text he didn’t think it was, and she said he gives up on things when they are going well because he gets scared of things going from good to bad. But with events between when we broke up and last month, the last time we talked – because of some events, I decided I wasn’t going to wait around, though his mom told me to not give up on him.

    And I haven’t add dreams about him since I decided I was going to give up until recently. Then I started having dreams about being in a relationship with him again. I don’t know what this means and I needed to talk about this with someone and honestly don’t have anyone who in real life I can talk to about this. I don’t want to post it on Facebook and talk to my friends, whom I have grown apart from because I don’t want my dad seeing it, as he’s not the biggest fan of him right now, or from it getting back to him via his sister in law [brother’s fiancee] whom I work with as well.

    Any ideas or advice?

  5. I had a dream of an ex I had feelings for about 5 years he and I together. We were hanging out. No kissing or touching but we was close and I was resting my head on his shoulder visiting him.

    The second was recently before we got back together in my current relationship. I dream of him hooking up with other after it happened. Not sure what that mean but it’ll help if someone translate it for me.

  6. I have been dreaming about me and my ex sleeping together while he had a two marriage ring on his finger which is one of them are mine (but i dint wear it that time) .I remember he say”let people know you are my wife”…But now i’m marriage with other guy and had two kids together…we are happy until i dream about my ex…what does that means?

  7. I’ve been with my Fiancé for 3.5 years now, we’ve got our own place and we’re happy, my ex’s younger brother works with my Uncle which i saw him at my Uncles about a couple weeks ago now, we had a great catch up talking about old times and about my ex’s new partner and she’s not really happy so we had a great laugh.
    Anyways I had a dream about her that night and then again last night I don’t remember too much of the first one but last night I can remember, it was kind of like a big beach house party there was heaps of people alot of her friends that were talking to me and in the background she was trying to talk to me and get my attention with a sad look on her face like she wanted to tell her feelings for me, then I was standing there talking to two of her friends and on the right of me there was a couple rooms that no one was in except her and she was giving me gestures to go in to talk to her in private, I remember talking to her but can’t remember what was said it felt like she wanted me back and we were holding each other, this has confused me? Am I dreaming about her wanting me back?

  8. I have been dreaming about my ex some great and some not I recently had one where he had another girl and it makes me so sad to see that and how im not with him. im confused why I keep getting happy and sad dreams..

  9. Feeling has had happy Adeah it with will to one step past on. Ex boyfriend Cherles boo right love relationship ex girlfriend Adeah give friend everything do saying texting me ya Adeah you talking little bit! Yeah feeling has I had!!!

  10. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, but This is the second time I managed to dream about my ex.
    I only remember the second dream, but basically, it was the end of a double date with me and Tony (my current boyfriend) and my ex and his girlfriend and we went to drop her off at her house. She stormed out of the car and just left us all there.

  11. I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, but This is the second time I managed to dream about my ex.
    I only remember the second dream, but basically, it was the end of a double date with me and Tony (my current boyfriend) and my ex and his girlfriend and we went to drop her off at her house. She stormed out of the ca and just left us all there.

  12. i had a dream that I picked her up in my car and she got in all happy, and then got instantly pissed off and was beating the crap out of me and she pulled out a gun and killed me. I haven’t talked to my ex in a while..

  13. Cupcake_Girl on

    I recently had a dream of my ex boyfriend cheating on me. I might know why it happened but I’m not sure. He currently still lives with me a my mother and lay night he came home from work at 1:30am. I’ve been so pissed at him cuz he had a side girl whom he promised he didn’t have but i ended up finding out with some other things. My dream was him coming home from work late but instead of coming to me he was walking away holding hands with another girls and being all lovey. I think it might mean I’m even scared too try to be with him again cuz know he wants to.

  14. I’ve been single for three years now since I broke up with my ex. But I have this strange feeling of dreaming about my ex almost every month since the break up. In my dream, he always appear to be making things straight with me. We appear to be happy, in love and have the possibility of going back together. It’s like my dreams are literal. However, the truth is, we don’t have any communication after the break up and worst is, I think, he hates me a lot. What does it mean? Are we going back together again? Am I still in love with my ex? It’s been three years now and I am still single. I don’t want to be stucked in this dream. :(

  15. I have not been with my ex in twenty years and have a child in common with him.I have dreams about him alot.I have spent the last twenty years in a dissatisfying relationship.I am really unsure of why?

  16. I was having a bad dream of some of my past things I have been through. Apparently I was whimpering in my sleep. My fiancé nudged me abut instead of saying my name he called me by his ex wife’s name… Twice. He is almost done going through the divorce and she has treated him very poorly. It’s not the first time he has accidentally called me by her name. He was half asleep when he did it, does this mean he still has unresolved feelings for her?

  17. I have been having dreams about my ex, who is my son’s father. he hasn’t been around in the past 4 almost 5 months. He is in jail and wont get out till after the new year. I am back in a relationship with my high school sweetheart, and i am very happy. but for the past week ive been having sexual dreams about my son’s father. I have no desire to be with him. He did alot to me that i cant forgive right now. But the dreams are nice dreams of nice memories and are highly sexual. I want to know why I might be having these dreams about him, knowing i have no feelings towards him and i am very happy with the person i am with now. any suggestions?

  18. It is Sunday 6:51 am 11/23/14

    I just had a dream of my current gf of 1 year meeting my ex gf of 5 years and both end up hooking up but my current gf and ex want to continue to see each other on a another level.

    That didn’t wake me up

    What did was how I reacted in my dream

    I refuse with the most hate to see my ex with my current gf on any other level nor couldn’t stand the fact that they were in the same room together and the fact they already had exchanged #’s.

  19. I have ben having dreams about my ex. We were good friends before and we both liked eachother, but when we got together it was as if we were always ignoring eachother, so we broke up and decided to stay friends. I just remember he was in my dreams a lot for the past month, the latest ine I had just barely, and we beat up and unnamed person together. I am not in any relationship right now, I have no clue what it means.

  20. My ex and I were together 15 years and gave 2 daughters together. I was the one that wanted the divorce and he was devistated. We have been divorced for almost 4 years and we both have been in other relationships. I’m in nursing school and not currently in a relationship because im focusing on school. He however is in a relationship and has told me before that he does like the idea that she has 2 young kids because ours are 19 & 16. I have had a couple dreams lately that he is coming and talking to me about not being happy and doesn’t know what to do.

  21. I’ve been having dreams about my ex for about 5 years they come and go usually they’re really nice dreams about him I was so in love with him I’ve been with my partner now for 4 years and I thought the dreams it stopped a month or so ago but last night I had another except this time he was mad and yelling that he hated me something I’ve never experienced any of my other dreams its always been loving and just really exciting to see him in the dream but when I wake up I feel super bad because I wake up next to someone elseI really want to dream. But I really want to know what it meant

  22. Had a dream were am married to my current husband and my ex bf walks in a hotel elevator (were am staying) after he spotted me going in. He says “hey” am sorry for all the things that I put you through. You should be married to me. I never wanted you to get rid of our child together (short story we were teenage lovers than broke up because of his family pressuring me to have an abortion and the stress afterwards,split us up)

    He takes my hands in the lift and says “Sandra marry me please” stop living this lie with your husband.

    My dream cuts to all the difference places we made love,fields,cars,abandon trains…list is endless.we were together only18 months. (in real life he as a son with a ex girlfriend who he never sees & I’ve been married to my husband for 4years together for 8 our sons are 2months apart in age,my son being older)

    I say okay

    • Morgan Harrison on

      I have been with my current boy friend for 2.5 years and I love him.
      Last night I dreamt that I hooked up with a guy that was in my 4th grade class which was over 10 years ago while my boy was on a business trip, so I cheated and my friends tild my boyfriend and he dumped me. What does this even mean???

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