Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that often occurs when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning.

Dreaming of your ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

Why Do I Keep Dreaming About my Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

Read more about Relationship Dreams HERE

Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without truly expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they truly felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of ones feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Are you are convinced that you are meant to be with your ex? It is important to remember that you broke up for a reason. Getting back together will not solve these issues unless you change the root of the problem. This book by Mike Fiore, the creator of best selling “Text Your Romance Back Into Your Life,” is a great option for people who are looking to get the romance back into their lives.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you really cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its own way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more – People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

If you have ever had a cheating dream make sure you read this article: Cheating Dreams – What They Really Mean

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About Author

Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.


  1. I am in love with my boyfriend and I’ve been dreaming of a few of my exes. In the dreams we would kiss, but I stop them before it goes any further. I tell them that I don’t want to because I love my boyfriend, and that he’s the person I want to sleep with. What could this mean? Why am I dreaming of them?

  2. Ronnie Garcia on

    I had a dream about my ex that she came back and wanted to get back together with me. But then I had another dream where she was with her current boyfriend our families were living together and then they were being lovey dovy. when I woke up I was angry just furious and sad, I cried it’s something I don’t want to have again :-(

  3. I keep dreaming about my ex continuingly saying no it’s over between us. Sometimes he is with another woman, other times it’s women wanting him but he isn’t paying any attention. It hurts and I wake up crying and feeling depressed.

    • Ben Wheeler on

      I know how you feel. Last year I had a thing with this girl who was thinking about leaving the boyfriend she had at the time. When she first started to let me know she was interested in me I could not believe it at the time, I didn’t think I had any chance with her. Then I started noticing more things about her, and I realized that she was like me in so many ways. Communication between us was not very good though, I think that was one of the biggest problems with the whole situation. We would both over-analyze anything that the other person said or did and think that certain things where happening when in reality they were not (I especially did this). I think that was why we drifted apart. She ended up staying with her boyfriend for a few more months after that but I still had hope that she might show interest in me again. Recently I thought that she actually had an interest in me again. She had been single for a little while so I thought “okay maybe this might actually happen.” Immediately following that I found out she had just started dating someone else and I was devastated. If there’s anything I’ve learned from this it would be that analyzing doesn’t get you anywhere you should go with whatever you feel is the right thing. Also communication makes things a whole lot easier, if your ex doesn’t know how you actually feel you should definitely tell him. A lot of times the way things appear is not actually how they are, and even something as simple as sitting down and talking can clear things up immensely.

  4. I have been dreaming of my soon to be ex-husband ,every night for the past week and a half. The dreams are scenarios in which he and I are just together living out our every day lives. The dreams are peaceful and don’t reflect our relationship. It must be that my subconscious is giving me what I want, also helping me through the process of letting go slowly ,since he and I were together for almost ten years. He was the love of my ,life and probably always will be. Peace and love to all those who have loved hard and lost it.

  5. I keep dreaming about my ex not once or two but often times his always came on my dreams but when I woke up I don’t remember what happened. His already married now and has one son. Why is it I kept dreaming on him please explain. Thank you very much.

  6. shwetanshu bharti on

    I am married now,and i have 1 daughter also,she is 2 years old,but i loved 1 girl,and due to some reason,i didn’t marriage with her.and from last 3 years, i am continuously missing her.and even see her in my dreams.every time.its spoiling my life only.because i don’t love my wife,but i am pretending that i love her.its killing me from inside. i miss my love a lot , always ,every time.i don’t know what should i do…..

  7. I had this dream about my ex. In the dream he was texting other people, the person would ask about me and his previous relationship. He would say I’m a whore, and I was never important to him. I felt really bad after the dream, I don’t know what it means. Could this be true that he’s actually say that. Please help

  8. So its been a few months from my final break up. He was from a different race but always saw it that he was superior in some ways. HE HELD A LOT OF PRIDE. Haha. But that dream scares me. Why do I dream it? I don’t know why. That’s why I want to ask people on what they think on it. Every week I have a dream about him. But its always in a different place. This time I was in the car with my sister and we ended up at a hotel. Entering I noticed something about the people. They looked similar to the people of that country he was from. So I asked her a question. “Are you from Armenia” and with that she answered a yes. I then walked and my sister disappeared. I ended up in a room with a woman walking about. Once she saw me, She started saying “Life is full and love isn’t something you can play with. You have to learn to express it. Know it. Cherish it. Expand it.” I was kind of shocked cause I didn’t know this woman. Soon she said “come out, I know you’re in here.” and his sister came out of her hiding place behind a curtain. Then a knock was heard and the door opened to reveal an unknown boy and then him. My ex. that’s when I woke up. Every time I keep meeting him in every dream. I don’t know what it means. I’m just confused.

  9. hi.. Its been 7 seven years that we have been divorced. but I still see my ex husband in dreams on regular basis. I don’t miss him and m over him now but I always see hez sorry about his behavour and we are getting married. what could it means. it really bothers.

  10. I’ve fallen out of love with my husband and I keep constantly going back to thinking about my ex. I don’t love him but I feel there are many un-resolved things left unspoken and I keep thinking we need to have a final conversation.

  11. It’s now been the 4th time that I dreamt of my ex gf that I still love very much and I know for a fact that I have unresolved feelings to show her, then every time I see her around it’s a big surprise to me I feel very nervous and have the urge in wanting to talk to her again but yet I’m not sure if she will ignore me or will talk to me I mean I can tell she has little stares at me here and there and it may be a sign of something, sometimes I feel and wonder if she still has feelings for me or if she still loves me, I mean it was my fault for cutting her off a little after we broke up since we decided to become friends so basically she gave me a choice if I wanted that and she said she still loves me at that time after the breakup, so I wonder if she still currently loves me ever since I cut her off I don’t know, but I feel like I shouldn’t have done that I should’ve kept her in my life still now I feel like I have to do something about it, I’m also in a good relationship we’ve been dating almost a year and a half now and idk what to do because honestly I still have feelings for my ex because she made me so happy I can’t explain how wonderful it felt every time I got to hold her in my arms and even kiss her, my parents loved her a lot and so did her family, I really want to let her know how I feel about her still and I think I would feel so much better afterwards maybe I can achieve something after that but yeah this is what’s going on with me lately I really really miss her and it just stays in my head because I felt we had an actual connection, her breakup with me was understandable at its finest but also I feel that it was only temporary that she did that so what you guys think?

    • Ricky,
      They say that if you don’t do one thing that scares you every day, then you’re not living. Well, it is great advice, but difficult to put into action right? Every situation is unique, and only you know the circumstance, but I can tell you this: there is something unresolved, and it’s not goin to go away. I left a relationship with someone who I loved very much, for a very stupid reason. Four years later, I regret it so much and dream about him nightly. This girlfriend of yours left you right? But she wanted to stay friends, which to me indicates that you meant something to her. Furthermore, she may be contemplating reaching out to you, but feels like she can’t or shouldn’t (which is the case with me). In either case, you will have resolution by having a conversation. Good luck! :)

      • Thanks Katie! It makes perfect sense to me about why she still wanted to be friends with me, I knew I should’ve just stayed friends with her right after she said it, maybe it’s because I was too impatient to wait for her to come back in a relationship again that’s why I cut her off it just wasn’t feeling the same anymore, but yes you are right there is definitely some unresolved feelings going on and now that it definitely gives me the confidence to talk to her again discreetly about this to let her know how much I feel for her still thank you so much Katie and I definitely will talk to her soon and I’ll let you know the results afterwards :-)

  12. I’ve had a dream where I have managed to ask this girl out, we went walking on a date and it was cute…we end up going back to her place and meeting her family who are quite nice. But, the girl looks similar to my ex and someone at my college who looks attractive to me. They show signs of the personality of my ex, but also of my girlfriend who I am currently with. I’ve been with my girlfriend nearly two years, we have had some disagreements in the past couple of months, but this is the first time I’ve had a dream where my ex and my current girlfriend are mashed together with a third party. I know that I still have a small amount of feelings left over from when I broke
    Up with my ex 2 years ago. That’s because it ended with no clear reason. In the dream this girl gave me what I was looking for and I, her…to make it weird I magically appeared at a car show after…help please?

  13. I had a dream my ex-husband and I were remarried. In the dream I found out he had gone on a date with an ex-girlfriend. I confronted him and he walked out just like he did at our first breakup. It made me feel abandoned and angry.

  14. Please help me..
    I keep having reoccurring dreams about my ex boyfriend. In my dreams we are always happy and content. With every dream I feel the overwhelming joy and love as i did when we were actually together. I’ve been having these dreams for two years straight. More then once a week normally. I’m in a healthy marriage with a wonderful man who loves me dearly. I want to give him all my love as well, but it seems that I can’t.. Each time I start to think my ex is out of my head, dreams awake me. It burdens my heart.. The dreams make my heart ache for this other man. Please help me.

    • I truly wish this would have been analyzed. I am experiencing the same thing. The man I am with now was who I got with when my ex and I ended 10 years ago. However we split up for about 2 years because I wasn’t over my ex. During that time I got pregnant by my ex, then things got really rocky. I pretty much ran back to they one I am with, in truth, for safety. Please don’t get me wrong, I do love the guy I am with; just not the way he loves me. But, he is now the father of mine and my exs son. My son knows his dad didn’t make him and every day he looks more and more like my ex. It honestly hurts me watching my son look more and more like his biological father & I am plagued by my dreams day and night. These dreams are not of the past but current, as we are now. Not just him, but the family that caused the issues between us. His aunt showing up at my house and apologizing for interfering and telling me she misses me too. Him showing up at work and asking to talk. My son getting a court ordered DNA test. And (with guilt I say this) my father at my arm to walk me down the isle, the joy excitement and even comfort as I see our friends, family, and his smile waiting for me to be given to him. I love these dreams but I wish they would stop. I haven’t seen him in 6 years, and it was my fault in the end. I thought time would heal me, but I was wrong. I know I want him back. But I also know that the one I am with deserves the love he has for me returned, even if I don’t have it. I sometimes wish he would accidently connect with someone and leave me. So yeah, I have a few issues. I hope you get help; I am desperate too.

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