Dreaming about an Ex – What it Really Means


“I dreamt about my Ex!”  Dreaming about an ex is a common dream that can happen when you are in a committed relationship, going through a breakup or entering a new relationship. It is important to understand the whole context of the dream before you try and understand the meaning. Usually dreaming of an ex may show that you have unresolved feelings towards that person. Dreams about ex lovers are quite common for people who have gone through difficult breakups and still have lingering feelings.

Why Do I Keep Dreaming About my Ex?

More times than not, dreaming about an ex (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife) does not necessarily mean that you are still in love with them. Often your mind will be revisiting the period of time in your life when you were with this individual. Your dream is revisiting feelings and hopes that are connected with your ex. If you are dreaming about being in your twenties and married for the first time, your mind is recreating that happy experience and memory that you had in those years.

Ex lovers in a dream can often become a symbol of hope for love that may be currently missing in your waking life.”

Dreaming about an ex can be the subconscious minds way of remembering certain qualities that your ex possessed that your current relationship is missing. Maybe you had an ex boyfriend that was extremely good with your family, while your current boyfriend is cold toward others. Certain qualities and traits that are missing in your current relationship can often show up in a dream to fill this void. You may or may not have feelings for your ex, but usually people dream about certain qualities about an ex rather than an ex themselves.

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Dream about an exPeople who are often going through stressful times in their lives will often dream of a period of time when life was “more simple.” Sometimes that period of time will be represented with an ex. When you are in an unsatisfying relationship, your subconscious will sometimes revisit a happier period of your life in a dream.

“Just because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them”

This is often the case when you have a dream of your first love. Usually these dreams will bring you back to a place in time when the responsibilities of adulthood didn’t interfere with your freedom. This dream might be telling you to recapture some of the lost vitality of your youth that was once present in your relationships.

Sometimes seeing an ex in a dream represents the return of a bad habit or bad problem. You might have been in a physically or mentally abusive relationship before. It is important to try and work out these feelings that you may have towards your ex in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.

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You Might Still Miss Your Ex

Sometimes the meaning of dreaming about an ex is the answer that nobody wants to hear – you still miss your ex. Dreaming about getting back together with an ex or wanting to get back together with your ex can be a sign that you still have feelings for that individual. This might be a wish fulfillment dream that is occurring because of your long desire to get back with an ex.

Dreams of Ex

It is quite often to dream about an ex proposing or even marrying an ex boyfriend or lover. While many people believe that the dream is expressing their real feelings to you, the truth is these are usually a reflection of your own feelings that are projected into your dream. Dreaming about an ex will often mean that you miss certain characteristics or aspects of the relationship.

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Your Dream Is Helping You Deal With Past Emotions

When it comes to healing the mind and body, humans have natural mechanisms that allow us to experience physical and emotional pain and get over it. While you might find it extremely difficult to get over an ex if your conscious mind is constantly thinking about them, your subconscious mind will often use dreams to help process some of the emotions and thoughts that are built up inside of you.

For example, you might have ended your relationship without truly expressing how you felt about your partner. People who have a lot of built feelings towards someone might have a dream about confronting an ex and telling them what they truly felt inside about the relationship. Even though these confrontations or expressions of ones feelings take place in the dream world, they are therapeutic and help us deal with a lot of pain and hurt.

Leaving a Relationship (After a Breakup)

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If you have recently gone through a breakup with your ex there is a good chance that they will visit you in your dreams. Dreaming about your ex after you have broken up does not mean you are meant to be together. Usually it means your subconscious is trying to clean up some of the past issues that you might have towards this person. Dreaming about an ex can also mean that you have certain unresolved feelings or issues towards this person that you haven’t dealt with. If they are constantly in your mind and in your thoughts throughout your waking state, chances are you will have dreams about them at night.

Entering a New Relationship

If you just start dating someone new then there is a good chance that you might have dreams about your old partner. Dreams about an ex signify that your psyche is trying to figure out the positives and negatives of your new partner in contrast with your old partner. If you have these dreams while entering a new relationship it is important to look inside the dream and try and find out what the dream means.

Since the bonds of a long lasting relationship are often deeply wired into our subconscious mind, they can often manifest themselves into a dream. This is why you should never be surprised if you still have dreams about an ex that you really cared even if you start a new relationship. This is normal and it is part of the healing process. The mind has its own way of dealing with emotional bonds that we still hold on to. Think of it as therapy for your subconscious mind.

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Dreaming about an Ex while in a Relationship

Dreaming about an ex while you are dating someone new is a common dream that occurs. There are a few situations that will usually cause these dreams to happen.

Situation #1: You are in a healthy and fulfilling relationship and you start having dreams about your ex. – These dreams will often leave us feeling guilty because we feel like we are cheating on our partner. Usually these dreams are the subconscious way of clearing out some old baggage or issues that you might have with your previous relationship. Think of it as a natural way of healing your mind from old wounds.

Situation #2: You are currently involved in a relationship that is not satisfying you and leaving you wanting more - People who end up marrying someone they aren’t in love with or fall out of love with will often have dreams about their exes. Dreaming of an ex when you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage is your minds way of telling you that it might be time to move on.

Situation #3:You are entering a new relationship and your ex is still fresh in your mind from a previous breakup. Your mind is often trying to contrast the two partners and identify some of the qualities that you wish to avoid or have in your new partner.

Does Dreaming about an Ex meaning I’m Still in Love with Him/Her?

text your ex backJust because you dream about an ex does not necessarily mean you are still in love with them. It can mean you are still in love, but more often than not it means your subconscious mind is showing you qualities and characteristics about your ex that you are missing in your current relationship. It is important to analyze specific details about the dream like what happened around you and how did the dream end.

Certain aspects in the dream can give you clues that can help you uncover the meaning of your dream. Most dreams end up being more symbolic in their meaning and not literal. Often dreams about an ex are directed at healing whatever emotional wounds or feelings that you still have towards that person. It is important to remember that these dreams are not signs telling you to get back with an ex, but rather a process that your subconscious uses to help get over your ex and move on.

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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for DreamSTOP.com and has a B.A. in psychology and a minor in sociology. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. In Stephen's free time he loves sweating out his stress in Hot Yoga and enjoys cooking recipes he finds on Youtube.


  1. I divorce my ex husband 3 years ago since he was cheating on me with my sister. Im over tye whole situation now. But now i keep dreaming that he dies and all i do is replay the voicemails he left me. We remain good friends over the years since we have a son. Im over him but i cant stop dreaming of him.

  2. Heather Maine on

    All that I can think about is my dream from last night, so im home alone with my mom then i hear some noise in the house, I think it’s nothing then it goes on and on then i say i cant just ignore it so i look for the cause of the noise and it ends up being my ex hiding behind a door trying to get my attention. I open the door and there he was, I honestly never felt so happy inside that i got to see him. So we end up talking and leaving the house start catching up and bringing back a bunch of memories admitted that we truly miss each other and that really felt so real it made me feel like the happiest person alive. All in all we ended up hugging tight and kissing and just reliving our past.. I loved it but in reality the thing is we haven’t been together in almost 1 1/2 years, although i broke it off for a bunch of STUPID reasons that i started regretting months after. At the time i thought those reasons were on point, but i was clearly wrong. So we both moved on or so i thought we did, we both went into relationships i went into one but the guy screwed me over and i learned my lesson from then never love again. So ive called it quits with guys and love for almost a year now. But this ex, I just don’t get it hes all i can think about half the time and who i dream about every now and then, I’m hurting because i miss him but he’s probably happy with his life.. My dream is keeping me puzzled and i need as much help as i can get explaining all this i just don’t get it all.

  3. Jarrod Brown on

    Me and my ex-girlfriend have a baby together and she is one year and 2 months old. We broke up about three weeks ago and around that time it didn’t end well at all for either of us. We still keep in contact but the weird part about it is that I still want to be with her and can’t imagine being with someone else. She is the mother of my child and I have never felt this way for anyone before. Anyways, for these past couple weeks EVER night I have been having dreams/nightmares of my ex and it’s causing me problems with feelings I have within myself and towards her. What is happening to me and what should I do?

  4. Hi, I officially broke up with my ex boyfriend January 2014 because I found out he had cheated on me and den while broken up found out he had cheated on my a lot through our relationship. I always had a feeling he cheated on me but could never prove it until my friend saw it. He constantly try to get back with me for a constant year begging and begging so I seen him a few times to see maybe we could try again but didn’t like the person he was he had changed so much and had a completely different personality and didn’t seem like he had the same interest in me so I stopped seeing him which was just a month ago. I have been seeing someone new but sometimes and happy with him and other times am not. Over the past few weeks I keep dreaming of my ex last night I dream I was out in a bar and he was there and so was the new person I was seeing my ex came over to our table and was so nice and introduce himself to the person and seeing now..this made me angry because I wanted him to get jealous and beg for me back but he didn’t, next I left my table and went over to my ex and we talk and then we were hugging and kissing but at the same time I felt he wasn’t throughly happy when he was with me I still felt he would leave me. What does this mean? Does it mean I am still in love with my ex?

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