Cheating Dreams – What They Really Mean


“He was cheating on me in my dream!” Cheating dreams can invoke a very strong emotional response when you wake up from the dream. Most people can remember a dream when they woke up in a pile of sweat, furious at the person lying next to them.

Unbeknownst to your partner, you just had a dream that they were in the arms of another woman or man. If one spouse accuses the other of cheating because of a dream, it can cause a lot of problems in a relationship.

To understand why you have a cheating dream, it is important to interpret the dream in the context of your waking life. If your spouse is constantly flirting with other people around you, these dreams can indicate an untrustworthy partner.

Have you ever dreamed about your ex? Find out what a Dream about your Ex really means

Young man text messaging with young woman sleepingDreaming about cheating or being cheated on is one of the most commonly reported, and most disturbing dreams, for people in relationships.

These dreams can be so real and vivid that you can have all the feelings and emotions that you would have if your partner did cheat.

In some cases, these dreams turn out to be simple insecurities or fears within the dreamer. However, cheating dreams can also indicate an unfaithful partner in a relationship. As the dreamer, you are best equipped to uncover the hidden truth inside your dream. Related Dreams: Boyfriend Dreams or Girlfriend Dreams

“The subconscious mind can detect hidden signals that your conscious mind ignores or refuses to acknowledge..”

Foreshadowing Dreams about Cheating

When I was a child, I had a dream that foreshadowed my parents getting a divorce. One night I had a dream that my mom was being taken by a man that was connected to our family. When I woke up from this dream, I was visibly shaken and told my parents about it.

They both assured me that it was a nightmare, but little did I know my mom was having an affair at the time. This dream was so vivid and clear that I couldn’t get it out of my head. Three weeks after the dream, my dad found out that my mom was cheating on him, with the family friend I saw in my dream.

Cheating DreamThinking back to this memory, this dream was my subconscious mind trying to warn me of the impending disaster about to hit my family. Although my conscious mind did not sense any problem with my parent’s relationship as a child, my subconscious mind was reading all of the signals that my brain refused to acknowledge.

It was my subconscious mind that compiled all the hidden signs and portrayed them in a dream that revolved about my mom’s unhappiness in the marriage.

Whenever a dream about a cheating spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend turns out to be real, it often means you have a strong sixth sense of the things around you. Your unconscious mind is better at reading the subtle signs that your conscious mind has either overlooked or simply blocked out to avoid being hurt. Even though some people choose to remain ignorant of their cheating spouse in their waking mind, sometimes the subconscious will attempt to provide clues to infidelity.

An example of this is a wife that fails to notice that her husband is staying out longer after work. Although the husband could have displayed visible signs of infidelity, the wife’s conscious mind remained ignorant to any of these signs. To awaken the conscious mind, the wife could have a dream that her husband was in the arms of another woman.

Sometimes these cheating dreams occur to provide a warning of something that may happen in the future. Your dreams could be providing you clues that your relationship has grown stale and needs to be revived before it burns out.

Detect a Cheating Partner: If you suspect that your cheating dream might be telling you something about your partner, then I recommend this book called how to Catch a Cheat. I actually know someone that read the book and discovered her partner wasn’t cheating, which allowed their relationship to grow even stronger. 

Being Cheated On

In most cases, cheating dreams represent our fears and insecurities that we have about ourselves. You could have issues with trust that is causing your subconscious mind to create a dream about your partner cheating. Some dreamers have deep insecurity and anxiety about themselves that are reflected in their dreams.

Dreaming that your partner is cheating on you, usually, represents some kind of anxiety or worry that you have about your personal feelings towards yourself. You could have anxiety over your physical appearance, or be worried about your future together.

When someone is cheating on you, it can also represent a lack of control in your life. If you are the type of person that likes to have everything planned, cheating dreams can disrupt your feeling of being in control. Cheating dreams can also represent your fear of failure on a project that you have been working on.

Cheating on Someone Else

When we cheat on someone in our dream the first thing we feel is guilt. Why would I do that? I love my partner?! Cheating on someone is just as emotional as being cheating on because of the strong feelings of guilt associated with the dream.

These feelings are amplified if you were experiencing pleasure and happiness in the dream. Dreaming about being a cheater can indicate a feeling of guilt in other areas in your life. There is another possibility that your conscious mind is entertaining thoughts of cheating and these are reflected in your dream state.

If a person is constantly thinking about cheating on their spouse or partner, chances are they might have a dream about it. Sometimes these dreams reveal the painful impact of cheating and allow the dreamer to experience the guilt without actually going through the motions.


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Cheating dreams can represent self-fulfillment dreams of dreamers who are missing something in their lives. If your partner is not very affectionate, you might have a dream about cheating to satisfy your inner desire to be loved by someone.

Interpreting and Understanding Cheating Dreams

When trying to analyze a cheating dream it is important for you to look at the specific situations and circumstances that you encounter in the dream.

Is there a particular person that stands out in the dream?

You should always take note of the specific locations, people, objects and places in the dream. Remember that your conscious mind can influence your dream.

For example, if you are jealous of a coworker because of her good looks, this jealousy could be reflected in a dream of your spouse having an affair that same co-worker. Take note of any conscious thoughts that could influence your dream about your partner.

Is your dream a reflection of your insecurities and thoughts that you have in your waking life? Remember that most cheating dreams are not a reflection of reality, but are reflective of our insecurities. Although some dreams can offer an omen of truth, it is important to thoroughly analyze your dream before you come to the conclusion that your partner is cheating on you.

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Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for Dream Stop and has been working in the field of dreams for the past decade. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. These interpretations are for entertainment purposes only. Stephen's interpretations should be considered an opinion, not professional advice.


  1. Arlene Santana on

    Me and my ex are working on getting back together, we were together for almost 3 years. He cheated on me almost a year ago and didn’t know how to tell me so he broke up with me. I always had the feeling something was going up. But I never knew about for 6 months. During those 6 months he dated someone as a rebound for 4 1/2 months but when they dated, they rushed things way too fast because she was that type of girl who doesn’t love the man, but the idea of having a boyfriend. She just wanted a trophy boyfriend. So he was used and didn’t even see it until the end of their relationship when she broke up with him over a small argument (mind you, that was the first argument they ever had) so he saw how it didn’t work out and they stayed separate. He contacted me finally telling me what actually happened between me and him and he’s been working very hard to get me back. I went on dates with other guys but could never stay in a relationship with any of them because of the man I truly love. I tried so hard to get over him but I couldn’t. He had the same issue with the girl he dated for 4 1/2 months for a little bit but got over her. I still have the same amount of love for him as I did before we broke up. Recently things have been looking good and I actually went on a couple dates with him and I can really see how hard he’s been working for over 6 months. I decided I would give him another chance, but recently, I’ve had a few Dreams where I am in a relationship with him, and he I look around for him, and see him cheating on me with his ex. Not full on kissing or something like that, but little things that would hurt me and he wouldn’t think anything of it until after he thought about it. The most recent dream was of him kissing her on the cheek by. I haven’t talked to him about the dreams yet, but I feel like they are based off of how I feel about him being over his ex. I feel like he isn’t completely over her, like he still has feelings for her. She did contact him about two weeks ago asking why he was back with me (she thinks we actually dating) and why they didn’t work out, etc. I feel like these dreams are based off of my own feelings, and not of the future telling me something.

  2. Iv had dreams about my wife cheating on me with my brother but I should know better we’ve been together going on 8 years God willing ly but like I was going to say I know what I got I shouldn’t even think like that but my dream felt so real and it scared me we argue like any couple that’s just life que no shit we drink go out we can look but don’t stare and don’t touch we respect our relationship I love my wife and I know deep in my heart she does to should I b worried???

  3. Just woke up crying, been with my bf for almost 5years and he’s cheated a bit in the beginning and I just can’t clear my mind of any of it. I have these weird vivid dreams of ppl places and girls he’s “cheating on me with like I’m there with him watching him, getting thrown to the side. Its just weird iv never seen these faces or ppl b4 BT there so clear? Like I could point them out if I ever seen them again?. I just dk how to put a stop to it, I want it to stop bcuz I’m always awaking to feeling so upset, hurt and so mad twords him. That sometimes I don’t want to go to sleep. We have decussed the problems a million times he appoligised and says it will never happen again. That he loves me and he just had a problem. As far as i no it hasnt happend cents. And were growing trust back slowly. And i just dk what to do. It sucks seeing yourself being betrayed by someone u love and hope will never do such a thing. He just seems so mean and spitefull in all the dreams. Like he knows I’m there watching and he wants me gone and then he just dissapers in my dream and i take a while looking for him, never find him i always awake. Feeling lost, confused, hurt, angery just everything i can possibly feel. Someone help.

    • Ashton Black on

      I’ve had the same types of dreams for the past 2nights and they were both about my boyfriend that I’ve been with for over a year cheating on me or leaving me. They were at different places and different people. The first one was at a house and I couldn’t find him so I looked in a basement and he was having sex with this girl, the second time was literally 20mins ago and it was at some resort and he had gotten a job as a movie player like at a cinema and there was this girl that was working with him then I opened the door to the movie thing and he was sitting in a chair with the girl on his lap talking and making out with her. I woke up sweating and crying I immediately texted him

    • Robert Shaffer on

      You need to get out of that relationship. Adultery, and infidelity is the ultimate betrayal to your partner. Doing it to get revenge doesn’t clear it. You need to cut that branch off of your tree because it bears no good fruit, and it never will no matter what. This is truth, and you asked for help, but this will only help you if you just do what you read from here.

      I cut off every person I ever dated and never let them back in my life. Best decision I ever made, because I ended up finding the real one after that. If they cheat on you, it’s because they aren’t the right person for you.

      Don’t settle for mr or Mrs right now, settle for mr or Mrs right. That right person for you will never stir you wrong no matter what insecurities you have about yourself. Insecurities is normal in all of us, for we all are insecure. But the person that is right for you my friend will not ever treat you that way, because he will know the day he bends his knee that god created all of you with his hands, just for him and will be grateful always

  4. So I had this really crazy dream the other night and it’s like messing with my mental state. I’ve been in a relationship with the most amazing boy ever for about 2 years. Ever since my freshman year of high school. Towards the end of my sophomore year this boy named James started being friends with my older sister and he started drawing his attention towards me. He would get annoying at time because he would try to text me all summer and it just got irritating. I felt like he had a crush on my but the feelings were definitely not mutual. So recently a new school has start and I’m now and junior and James always seems to find me in the lunch room or in the hallway. But he messaged me the other night asking me if it was weird that he hasn’t had his first kiss yet since he’s a senior. I obviously said no it’s not weird because let’s be honest it’s really not weird. But here where the dream comes in and I will tell you only what I remember because it wasn’t completely vivid. So basically what I first remember is James kissing me, then somehow things went A LOT further. Immediately after the actions were made I flipped out. I can still feel the emotional trauma from what I felt, not that was and still is so vivid. I started looking for my boyfriend and I immediately told him what had just happened and I was sobbing so hard. Now my boyfriend is honestly the sweetest dude in the whole world even when we get into fights he tries not to even gift back. Anyways we loses it like I was so terrified. I mean yes people will get anger when they find out they have been cheated on but I mean he flipped out like insanely flipped out. I then woke up forgetting that the dream had happened and once j started getting ready for school the dream hit me. My whole body felt as if it shut down it was a really strange moment. Once I got to school James yet again found me and all I could do was cringe and hardly say anything to him. I mean it’s not his fault that I had this dream but I can’t help it. Also another piece of information is the my boyfriend graduated in the class of 2015 so he is no longer going to school with me.

  5. I’m 6 months pregnant with are 3rd child and we have been togeather for ten years and I keep having dreams that my husband is cheating on me and I catch him in bed with different lady’s in my dreams
    I wake up so hurt and upset
    Is it down to me being pregnant or is it my dreams trying to tell me something?

    • Zoe Hobbs,
      Maybe it’s because your not feeling at your best right now with being 6 pregnant and a mom to 3. Sometimes being a mom makes women forget that they are still beautiful, vibrant women! I’ve known many women who get down on themselves for not being and feeling “so sexy” but that is all a state of mind. My mom always told us girls that when we were feeling down to get our hair done, do our nails and to dress our best (every day). That way you are showing you’re best possible outside you, which leads to greater changes inside.

      Working on your appearance is only a quick fix though. It takes time and effort to feel secure about yourself on the inside. I myself would keep a journal and list positive affirmations about myself… and keeping track of vivid dreams isn’t a bad idea either. If you work on yourself inside and out these dreams may disappear with any insecurities as well.

  6. I keep having multiple dreams of my boyfriend cheating on me. I pick arguments with him about this. He’s never cheated but something tells me he’s done it before in our dating stage or that he wants to do it. I have these dreams everyday and I’m sick of it. Are these just my insecurities or that I think of him cheating on me is possibly true?

    • You must talk to him about ur dreams.. For sure he will ask about why u have dreams such like that.. First he will ask u if u have trust on him and if u do u have nothing to worry about.. It is ur insecurities only on how u compare urself to another girl/woman.. Maybe if she is more attractive than u then u compare her to urself.. If your boyfriend have a girl friends its okay and normal, if he had a crush on other girl that is normal for he know he only loved u and he know that u trust him :D.. If you are jealous on how he approach some girl then talk to him but not argue with him just let him know that you are jealous or even if u are insecure for sure he will explain to u why u dont have to worry about it.. Dreams create by our mind and by our thinking to much.. Try to relax and hang out together so that it will ease ur mind.. dont be stress about it.. I experienced it, sometimes having a dreamed that my partner holding hands another girl then I approach him about my dreams I cried cause I really do not want it to happen then he comforts me and tell me that it is just a dream as I think to much because I am insecure or jealous when I see so much more than me.. but it is just my mind thinking such like that I just trust him as he trust me just be faithful and pray 😀

  7. I am fairly young but i’ve had hand first experience with affair couples from my family, and now i am in a relationship my self…
    i loved the girl for years before. We were friends. But then i learned she had slept with her previous boyfriend multiple times ever since she was young.
    Meanwhile i had many cases i couldve done it with other women but i did not so when i learned about her, it broke my heart to pieces…what hurt me was also that after leaving her ex she used to get rides from him to go to church almost every day, for 7 months…i used to confront her alot about this but she promised something and did the oposite…so i was always suspicious after a while cause i believed her promises for months then suddenly i see their messages that she was deleting…she has told me sincerely multiple times that she just did it because their families knew eachother and they had church in the same time and it was too early in the morning to walk…
    i told her that shes just giving him more hope and rope to hang on so its scaring me what he can do with it, she understood and she stopped all contact with him for another 7 months now…
    but i still see her in my dreams, fool around with a friend from childhood that shes had that made sex jokes with her. the friend guesses me and her are together but he doesnt know as its not allowed to us to date from her family…
    he is 2 years younger than her but it still worries me cause he spends more time with her on weekends since they attend the same places and events…
    i see him in my dreams and it worries me cause he IS very horny and has made sex jokes in the past…
    but in my case if she flings with a guy from work or from somewhere else, even if we’re going through rough patches, i would not hesitate to leave her cause that means she has given it all into going behind my back and stabbing me…and ive felt what broken promises feel and i do not want that pain again

    i do not know if she knows about my insecurity, it comes with a past…a past ive seen in my family and in her actions to make her ex feel better…
    i dont ever mention her of how much she would hurt me by hiding the fact that they saw eachother each morning…
    i hate knowing i see these dreams about her friend too…
    she has a job with menwhores and flirty women too and there has been many many cases where her coworkers would fling at work so that bats my eye too…since theyre taller men, not as good looking as me but they order her around, and they’ve slept with women in a relationship before so…
    i love her to death… i want to write songs about her… paint canvases, walls, trees and skies for her… i wanna buy her jewelry… gift her a beautiful smart baby… and share the same faith as her…
    i dont want to have these ideas in my head…theyre temporary but theres always something that worries me… i cannot go on…
    i cannot move on either, shes the one ive ever loved…ever…

  8. I had a dream my wife was seeing another man, and they were in my home and this man was walking around my house. My kids were there and my wife and the man in my home were dressed to go out along with my kids. I looked in to her eyes, and she had make up on and the color of her eye shadow matched her dress. What’s crazy is my wife doesn’t even where make up. I remember getting into an argument with her about how her and this man had been dating. I can tell by the way she looked @ me that they had sex and she continued to deny that they haven’t. I remember walking off and mumbling things under my breath like I’m selling this house I’m tired of this shit. And my cell phone rang and it was my co worker from a old job, and he over heard us arguing. But I told him that my wife was leaving with some dude and they’re going to a park and some restaurant where foam bubbles fall from the ceiling. Then my co worker began to tell me he and his wife been to the restaurant before and it was a nice place to go and have dinner. This made me feel even worst. The anxiety and the panic felt so real. The worst part is the home we were in is not the same home we’re in now. It almost resembled my grandparents old home. But I some how felt in the dream that what I was experiencing in the dream was in the future. But I forced myself to wake up. Because I couldn’t take it anymore. My chest was hurting and I was having visions about the dream after waking up. This dream had a lot of clues about my life and relationship with my wife and kids. I just can’t interpret them. HELP!!!!

    • I just had a dream. My husband and a car sales lady clicked when we went to go look at cars and I could tell cuz they ignored me. I found his cell phone and sexting! It was my grandmothers house. I woke up immediately cuz of the pain. In reality my father cheated so many times on my mother. I’m afraid that may happen to me and I have woman issues that affect our togetherness. Next month he is going on a business trip for 6 weeks. Happy for him but scared cuz my dad went to a business trip and found tha affair there.

    • Midnight terror on

      I just had a dream. My husband and a car sales lady clicked when we went to go look at cars and I could tell cuz they ignored me. I found his cell phone and sexting! It was my grandmothers house. I woke up immediately cuz of the pain. In reality my father cheated so many times on my mother. I’m afraid that may happen to me and I have woman issues that affect our togetherness. Next month he is going on a business trip for 6 weeks. Happy for him but scared cuz my dad went to a business trip and found tha affair there.

  9. I had a dream my boyfriend was cheating on me with this other girl who’s always trying to talk to him and she seems like she likes him. I woke up super upset, unable to get a picture of them kissing out of my mind. It’s making me super upset. Should I tell my boyfriend about my dream?

    • Yes, have a talk with him. Before comming all at once, make him understand that your dream disturbed you and you feel obligated for him to know. Talk it out

  10. I was sleeping and my x was up all night I had been sleeping half the day and then all night when he layed down he disturbed my non rem sleep I believe ..he said I lied avout it happening n it was a dream but I remember my body sitting up and leaning over him and saying did you cheat on me and he said yeah it was cuz of you pawned me off when you were working 2 jobs.. And I remember my body going back to unconciousness ive sat up and looked around and have said things but I never had it happen and remembering it like that time n when I asked him it seemed like he was lying and wish it didn’t happen n I wouldnt remember usual. I think I scared him when I did it cuz I was completely unconcious right before that. nothing was the same after that n im now 7 months pregnant lol hard to believe but I do believe it happened

  11. My boyfriend told me in the morning that hes having a bad dream he told that hes dreaming that he broke up with me because i can’t give him a baby and then hes having a baby to the other lady she knows the girl in hes dream.. and after that dreaming the night hes dreaming that sex in the other girl its a diffirent girl what does it means?

  12. Mine is slightly different in that it involves my wife – who I’ve been with for 15 years – taking my child away.
    Essentially, it’s a variation on the same theme: I discover that she has been having an affair with another man, who she then leaves me for. She is very matter-of-fact, but I’m distraught because my young child accepts this new man happily.
    The man always seems very calm, controlled and outwardly polite, but often talks to me alone and is quite nasty. Then he goes back to his public ‘nice guy’ image.
    I then end the dream alone, but with female friends or co-workers trying to ask me out on dates. However, I’m still in love with my then ex-wife and jealous that she’s taken my child away with another man.

  13. My husband has cheated on me in the past and for the past year I’ve been having dreams about him cheating at least once a month. I’ve confronted him a few times and he is such a considerate person towards me. He knows after these kinds of dreams I become emotionally sensitive towards him for days after, he usually does a great job of making me feel wanted but I just don’t know if that is even fair because these are my dreams. But the dreams are awful to where he confronts me, laughs about it and continues with the affair even with me knowing. In reality he is really not this kind of person. If I were to pay attention to the context of the dreams, the setting is completely different and usually does not place us in our normal circumstances, for example we have our own home with children and in my dreams it shows us living with my mother and with toddler or newborn children. Now in the past he has cheated while I was pregnant and I don’t know if that is why my dream still shows us with a baby. I say emotionally I would be ready to leave if he ever cheated again but honestly I really wouldn’t know what to do. Reality is I hate the dream and I can’t ignore the dreams because I am a firm believer in dreams and how they tell us things we don’t know. But in the end all truth will come out. Sometimes I do blame him that I have these dreams but I just don’t know if I should still hold him reliable. One thing I do know is these types of dreams can really disrupt my life.

    • If your husband is that low to cheat on you whilst you were PREGNANT why are you still with him???! I can almost guarantee he is still cheating, a leapord never changes its spots

      • that’s not true at all but I do admit that around the cheating period was hard to deal with I pushed through and eventually got sick of him and left him and started to see another man which opened his eyes and like that saying says you never know what you got till it’s gone we now have 13 yrs together and I still love him and he loves me a lot and stopped even hanging with his friends which he told me in the past his friends always came first now we are on our second kid which took 10 yrs for me to decide if I wanted another and I couldn’t be happier i still get past dreams of him cheating I’m sure that’s just my insecurities but hes done and over that we were also really young when all that happened i thought he would never change now he’s hard working and very loving tells me he loves me every day and that I’m beautiful even without make up when I fill fat he tells me I’m not even though nothing fits right now lol I’m glad I stuck out with him till the end cause he’s a great father but that’s just me talking every body goes through somehing different and this happens to be mine

      • Marion Coath on

        That’s the truth, he still is, tell me, did he admit he did? Or did you have to catch him? If the latter, yeah he’s a cheater! Do yourself a huge favor, dismiss him or your heart will go though many negative heartbreaks and misery when you find out cause one thing I’ve learned was that anyone doing deceptive shit or the guilty, they will and always will leave mistakes behind. Divorce or regret it…

    • If you allowed the behavior, it will continue. If a baby doesn’t keep you on board then there is something really wrong. Baby or no baby but you are creating life with this person so it’s a huge deal.

      Has he sought counseling? He should be paying for yours too. He needs to be doing the work. Cheating is not just a physical act. It is much more psychological. He needs to get rid/understand of the triggers, memories, behaviors, etc. It is addictive. It is nearly never a one time thing.

      What has he done in order for you to take him back? Start there and your dreams will be more clear. If you were okay with your decision then maybe these alerts wouldn’t be popping up. You deserve a partner who is clear headed. Can he give you that? Big hug. We’ve all been there but you need to be honest with yourself first.

    • If you allowed the behavior, it will continue. If a baby doesn’t keep you on board then there is something really wrong. Baby or no baby but you are creating life with this person so it’s a huge deal to put it lightly.

      Has he sought counseling? He should be paying for yours too. You need the tools as well. He needs to be doing the work. Cheating is not just a physical act. It is much more psychological. He needs to get rid/understand of the triggers, memories, behaviors, etc. It is addictive. It is nearly never a one time thing.

      What has he done in order for you to take him back? Start there and your dreams will be more clear. If you were okay with your decision then maybe these alerts wouldn’t be popping up. You deserve a partner who is clear headed. Can he give you that? Big hug. We’ve all been there but you need to be honest with yourself first.

  14. Sam Nicole on

    I have a slightly different situation, my boyfriend of nearly two years dreams of me cheating on him in such awful ways that I actually feel guilty about his dreams sometimes. An example of this is a dream he had just the other night; we were at a party and I started ignoring him and kissing my ex in front of him, and then telling my boyfriend to “be a good boy and accept it”. I have never cheated on him, and don’t really talk to many straight men. But he has these dreams almost once a week if not more. I’m starting to get concerned because he gets very upset and worked up over these dreams to the point where he is sometimes shirt with me. And I’m not sure what to do, if I can do anything, to make them stop. Please help!

  15. I have just woken up from dreaming that my boyfriend was cheating on me. It has happened before and I have told him. He always says he would never cheat on me. He has also never had any girlfriends before me. So I don’t know what to think. But the dreams feel so real and the times they have happened I wake up crying and he is laying next to me. So idk what to think.

  16. I just had a dream that my boyfriend left me for my friend and started making out and touching eachother in front of me. I don’t know what to think because this dream felt so real!! Is it my insecurities or is he not happy with me?

  17. I’ve had previous dreams of my man cheating on me. I always tell him and he would say it wouldn’t happen. We’ve been together for a year. I’ve had numerous dreams of him cheating on me. I didn’t sweat it. Until recently. Caught him cheating. Yes, I am still with him. We’ve been good for the last couple of weeks. And just this morning, I dream of him cheating again. I don’t know how to react or feel about this. I’m still hurt and it just keeps haunting me.

    • I constantly have dreams of my boyfriend cheating as well. Before I dated him, I used to have constant dreams of my x cheating and they turned out to be real! With my boyfriend now, he hasn’t “cheated” per say but when I started having the constant dreams I would tell him and he would also say he would never do that, to not worry etc. but I caught him secretly talking to 2 different girls behind my back on 2 different ocassions. Never had full proof to really accuse him of “cheating” but he did go out of his way to make sure I didn’t find out. Once again I’m having these dreams! The most recent was of him cheating on me with his sisters friend and in this one his whole family knew and he actually slept with the girl. The wierd thing is I tried crying in the dream about it but I was fake crying? Lol it was wierd. I don’t know if my sixth sense is super strong and it really warns me becAuse so far when I dream they have been true. I would like to know what it means as well! Especially, now that I’m dreaming again. Getting worried!

  18. I keep having this dream my boyfriend cheating on me and admitted it to me in my dream….he isn’t that type of man in real life so why am I dreaming of this

  19. Recently my boyfriend and I experienced a bad breakup. When we got back together, I started having dreams of him cheating. It’s not every night but it’s happened twice now and both times I woke up furious at him and he’s usually right next to me

  20. I just woke up from a dream where I met an amazing guy on vacation and I still had my boyfriend in the dream. My boyfriend isn’t very affectionate and leaves me feeling lonely sometimes. It totally made sense that I would dream of a different relationship.

  21. I came across this website today after I woke up from an afternoon nap having dreamed that my wife confessed directly to me that she had been having an affair. When I awoke, even though I was fully aware it was just a dream, I was angry, hurt, and had a horrible feeling, like, somehow there was some truth to it. After reading the material on this website I decided to confront her about it (I should also mention that I’d had this dream at least once previously). It was all true. She had been having an affair with a co-worker for nearly a year. I was gutted, but also amazed at how my subconscious had alerted me to something that I had missed for such a long time.

      • Thank you. Yes I am still with her. I was very hurt. I don’t absolve her of responsibility by any means, but I also took into account the circumstances surrounding it and the specific nature of the affair. She explained her reasons and I saw all their chat logs online. She was feeling very sad in our relationship for a long time, for other reasons, and a Co-worker, who I could see from the chat logs, was being very manipulative, and basically taking advantage of the hard time she was going through. I can’t go into details, but I can confirm it certainly was a hard time for both of us. He had been pestering her for years at work, and eventually persuaded her to do it a couple of times (at work), while she was going through a tough patch with me. After those couple of times, my wife said she wanted to stop, but he hinted that he would tell her co-workers and me if she didn’t continue. So she reluctantly continued. I do believe her because I saw the chats, which seemed to confirm it, and saw what he looked like. He’s much older than her and quite unattractive. Not at all my wife’s type. She still could have said no, and that did make me angry, but I have accepted her apologies, insisted she blocks off all contact with him, and had a lot of long chats and made practical changes to address the issues that were making us both unhappy. These have gone very well so far, and this weekend was the first weekend in a long time that we spent entirely together. We both had a lovely time together. It feels like for the first time in a very long time that I actually have my wife back. I wasn’t about to lose her to some a**hole who was just using her for sex. I’m pleased to say we’re both feeling very good about the future. I still think about it when I’m alone, and it does hurt, but I’m sure this will get less over time. The best thing I did to address this was to sit down and write a letter to my wife, explaining the specific ways the affair had upset me, and how I was feeling. I also made sure though to include a positive message for the future and told her the things I love about her. That was very therapeutic, and once it was all written down, it felt like I could stop thinking about it. I would recommend that to anyone in a similar situation. So yeah, that’s about it. Thank you for asking. All the best!

        • I was in a similar situation as you found yourself in. Some aspects were different but I’m positive the pain was identical. It’s been almost 2 years and we’re still together. But this is the 1st time I’ve talked about it to anyone. I think I’m going to take your advice and write her a letter as I still remember at times and it cuts deep. Wish me luck.

  22. carolyne betty mukiisa on

    It’s true,cheating dreams are really as God trying to show you that you are in the wrong relationship and unfaithful,its true to myself,when I was in love with my ex for some good three years,I was always getting dreams of him with other ladies,like if we are moving together he gets fast from me as I try to come close to him but I failed ,and I told him I always dream you with differ t ladies but why seems there is the big problem you are bidding from me,if you got ladies please tell me,the ex boyfriend refused to tell me,and the time I alway dream him areal person and turn black in the in the end I got him cheating on me with different girls and was dangerous man in his real life.i left him for good bse God warned me in dreams.therefore we must take dreams serious sometimes about the people we live with or around us or those we talk to.thank you so much.

  23. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 9 months and I had a dream last night that my boyfriend and I were playing the powerball and he won. Everyone was so excited for us and as we were on our way to our car, we see his ex. He goes up to her, and they just kiss! Right infront of me! My boyfriend is still holding my hand and everything. I didn’t cry until his best friend ran after me and started talking to me. I felt so stupid because he did that infront of EVERYONE. Yet I went back to him in my dream. He didn’t really feel sorry for it though. I woke up crying and mad. And I’m gonna talk to him about it today, but honestly, I think it’s just my insecurities. I’ve never liked his ex, even before him and I started dating. So my gut tells me it’s just my insecurities. But I wanna know what other people think about this

    • Hi Kanaha

      You are not alone. I have been having similar dreams like yours for over almost 20 years and over 3 relationships. My first relationship lasted 4 years but what made me want to break up with him in the end was his ‘accidental’ touching of my friends’ private parts. He was devastated when I ended the relationship, especially as I had moved on quickly to my second relationship which would last 13 years. That ended two years ago. He didn’t cheat but I think he wanted to in the last 2 years of our relationship. More recently, I feel like I found the man of my dreams and was disappointed that just over one year later, I had these dreams again. I’ve had two in the last 6 months. But I took the time to apply some meditation techniques which I learned from John Kabatzin (he is on youtube) to the latest one and found that the dream is based on one of my deepest and complex fears and insecurities. As I was growing up, my dad cheated on my mum many times, and right ‘infront’ of her which may explain the shockingly and confusing open-ness of this cheating in the dreams. So, I think these dreams are definitely based on our insecurities. And given the long term relationships I’ve been on, it seems that the argument for these dreams foretelling actual cheating is more a matter of statistics (most people end up cheating but not always for mean reasons such as Anon’s experience shows above) than of materialized predictions. I hope the talk went well! My fiancee is extremely supportive and loving when I tell him, and it makes me feel much better about the dreams staying out of our real world.

  24. I had a ex who left me for someone else and I was so hurt now I’m very happy with my boyfriend of one year we are always together 24/7 since we work and live together but I have constant dreams that he cheats on me with my close friends that he does not even know I now he would not cheat on me but what upsets me the most is in my dream I see the way he looks at me with that look when you know someone does not love you and it’s the same on my ex would give me my boyfriend knows about my dreams and he gives me a hug every time I wake up crying I wish it would just stop I am so sick of these dreams

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