10 Reasons Why You Dreamed Your Lover Was Cheating On You

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Cheating Dreams

If you could categorize dreams by the impact, they have on you when you when you awake, cheating dreams would be in a class of their own.

After awakening from a cheating dream, your heart will be pounding through your chest, and you will feel a mix of emotions running through your head.

Some questions will start racing through your head, and you might even start questioning your partner’s loyalty.  What is even more frustrating, is you will see your partner sleeping peacefully beside you, unaware of the drama they just caused in your mind. How dare they!

What does it mean when you dream someone cheating on you?

When you first awake from the dream the first thought that will come into your head is, “Is he cheating on me in real life or is my mind making this up!?”

 

The hard part about interpreting dreams is that every dream must be looked at through an individual filter of the dreamer. While there are some universally accepted definitions for some symbols, other symbols must be put into the context of your life. Your dream is unique to YOU and must be looked at through your perspective.

The good news is that just because you dream that your partner is cheating on you, does not mean he or she is cheating in real life. Yes, there are exceptions to every rule, but you should never accuse your partner of cheating unless you know it for a fact.

Never wake up and accuse your partner of cheating just because you dreamed about it. That is an excellent way to ruin your relationship.

Here is a list of 8 different meanings that your cheating dream could have.

#1. You Feel Insecure in the Relationship

One of the most common reasons why people dream of a significant other cheating on them is because of their insecurities and low self-esteem. If you are not happy with specific aspects of yourself like your financial situation, your looks, or even your family, these insecurities can often be reflected in a dream.

Perhaps your partner is moving ahead in life and starting to make positive changes. If you find yourself being left being, this can create doubt and insecurities. When we are in relationships,  it is important to grow together. If one person improves, and the other stays the same, this is going to have an adverse impact on the long term outlook of the relationship.

Low self-esteem and insecurity might lead you to believe that your partner has better options for them. If you don’t view yourself as the prize in the relationship, it can often lead your insecurity getting the better of you. Someone who is not confident will have a difficult time maintaining a healthy relationship.

Low self-esteem is something that can cause a lot of problems not only for yourself, but it can create a lot of trust issues that can be difficult to resolve.

Possible Solution

Focus on building your confidence. Whether that involves changing your mind set, going to the gym, or working harder at work. By building confidence in yourself you will not only make yourself better, but you will also be a more attractive partner.

If your partner is growing and improving themselves, make sure you keep up. Don’t sit back while your partner makes a lot of positive life changes, or you will start to feel very insecure about yourself in the relationship.

#2. You Are Afraid of Losing What You Have

When life is going smoothly, sometimes our fears can sabotage what we have. The fear of losing what we have can lead us to dream about events that can cause significant changes in our relationship.

Maybe you have had relationships in the past that seemed perfect on the outside, but there were some deep problems that you never realized until it was over.

If you are afraid of losing what you have, it can cause you to make choices that will have an adverse effect on your well being as a person.

The fear of losing what you have may also stem from your childhood. An individual who has witnessed their family being torn apart by a bitter divorce will be more susceptible to fear of history repeating itself. Whatever the case, your cheating dream may be a reflection of that internal fear that everything around you may come crashing down eventually.

Possible Solution

Embrace the future, don’t fear it. If you live life afraid of what is going to happen in the future, you will become paralyzed by that fear. If you believe you are in the perfect relationship, you are probably lying to yourself. The truth is every relationship needs work and can always be better. Strive to continue to work at your relationship, and there will be nothing that you need to fear.

It is also important to accept that whatever challenges life brings you, you will face them head on. Instead of fearing what is going to happen, embrace everything that happens and make the best of it. A positive attitude moving forward in the future is going to help you improve your overall outlook on life.

#3. Your Dream Is A Reflection of Your Thoughts

The ideas that we put inside our head can have a powerful impact on what we dream about. Entertaining thoughts of cheating on your partner can often have a profound effect on your dreams. When you entertain thoughts of cheating or infidelity, sometimes those feelings are reflected into our dream by a partner who is unfaithful to us – doing the very deed that we have been thinking about doing on them.

If you entertain the idea of cheating on your partner, those thoughts can be reflected into your dream by a partner who is unfaithful to us – doing the very deed that we have been thinking about doing on them.

If you are being tempted to cheat on your partner, this dream could be a reason for you to go ahead with it. If you feel like your partner might be cheating on you, it will give you the green light to cheat on them.

Possible Solution

If you find yourself thinking about adulterous thoughts throughout the day, you should either evaluate your relationship. No relationship is going to survive if one person is always thinking about cheating with other people.

You need to address the issue and find out why you are having these thoughts. Are you being satisfied in your relationship? Is your partner giving you the love and attention that you need? Find out why you are having these thoughts of cheating on your spouse.

#4. You Were Cheated On In The Past

If you have experience with liars and cheaters, you will probably be a lot more cautious when you are involved in a new relationship. Even if you are with the perfect guy who has shown no signs of being unfaithful, there will always be doubt in the back of your mind from your past experiences.

Since experiences from our past shape our current mindset, it is easy to see why dealing with a cheater in real life can have an enormous impact on your thoughts going forward.

Having someone cheat on you can leave permanent scars that have a devastating consequences on your unconscious mind. Inner fears and doubts will start to present themselves the moment things get tough in a relationship. –

Possible Solution

It is important to realize that just because you had a few bad apples in the past, doesn’t mean you should judge your current partner by the same standards. Your opinion of your current partner should only be formed by his or her actions, and not by actions of others. When you enter a new relationship, you should start on a blank canvas, and form your opinions from that.

Sometimes the best way to get over a past incident that has left you wounded is to forgive that person mentally. Forgive that person for wronging you, and you will be able to move forward with your life. Even if that person doesn’t deserve forgiveness, the act of forgiving can have a big impact on your own unconscious mind.

#5. You Don’t Trust Your Partner

Trust is an essential part of any healthy relationship.

It is impossible to watch someone around the clock and always be with them. There will always be times when you are apart from your loved one. If you do not trust your partner, then it can lead to a whole lot of issues, which include cheating dreams.

If you have a partner who is always flirting with other girls, don’t be surprised if you wake up from a cheating dream. Even though the flirting may be entirely innocent, seeing your partner flirting may cause jealousy and make you wonder what he is doing when you aren’t around.

Maybe you had a few friends who told you that your boyfriend was very “friendly” with a few people at the party when you weren’t around. Whatever the case, if there is jealousy in a relationship, you can expect to have a higher chance of dreaming about that person cheating on you. It is human nature.

In some circumstances, people don’t trust their partners because they have been cheated on in the past. If your partner has cheated on you in the past, it can be tough to get over these fears. No matter how honest your partner is moving forward, the lack of trust can forever impact a relationship.

Possible Solution

Talk to your partner about the situation and let them know that it bothers you. Being in an open and honest relationship is the key to trying maintaining a healthy one.

If your partner has cheated on you in the past, you need to either fully forgive them and move on, or break up. Do not stay with someone that you can never trust again. If you stay with someone who has cheated, forgive them completely and move forward. Do not dwell on the past or it will forever haunt you.

#6. You Are Being Neglected in Your Relationship

Often one of the biggest signs of cheating is not hidden text messages or calls that are discovered, but it is the actions of your partner towards you. Being neglected by your loved one may indicate that they are putting their attention to something else or someone else.

If you have a partner who is not paying much attention to you, then this may be a sign that things are not going well in your relationship. This is especially true if your partner is not interested in making love or being intimate with you.

Being neglected in a relationship will create a lot of doubt and fear in your mind. This doubt can often manifest itself in a dream that can create more stress when you awake.

Possible Solution

The only way to solve this problem is to have a talk with your partner and find out why your relationship is not as strong as it used to be. Perhaps work and children are coming between you spending enough quality time together.

Maybe you are dealing with someone who is suffered from their insecurities and are not confident right now. Whatever the case, it is important that you have an open discussion with your partner and talk about things that can help you both come closer together.

#7. You Have A Fear of Abandonment

People who have an underlying fear of abandonment are likely to have dreams that reflect this concern. If you are worried about your partner leaving you because you have been burnt in the past by an ex, this insecurity may rear its ugly head in your dream.

This dream may also indicate that you are waiting for your partner to show that he or she is fully committed to the relationship. They might have been showing signs of doubt, which you have been picking up on. This insecurity could also result from being abandoned by a parent or someone you looked up to in the past.

If you are unsure about your partner’s long term commitment to you, it can lead to these dreams that cause insecurities.

Possible Solution

Learning to accept that some things are simply outside of your control is important in dealing with this insecurity. Even though you could be the perfect partner, it doesn’t mean that you have someone who doesn’t have their own issues they are dealing with.

Communication with your partner can help you work out those insecurities that you have. If you have any fears and doubts, you need to talk to your partner and find a solution to those doubts.

#8. Your Partner is Cheating on You

Yes, sadly it is true that sometimes cheating dreams is a direct result of your subconscious mind picking up signs that your partner is cheating. Often the evidence can be right in front of our faces, yet we choose to ignore it because the truth is often worse than a lie. Not knowing will result in nothing changing in your life, while knowing the truth may lead to significant life changes.

Sometimes our unconscious mind will reveal things if we are not picking up those signals when we are awake. If everyone around you is telling you that you are with an unfaithful person and you refuse to believe it, don’t be shocked if you have a few dreams of that person cheating on you.

It is often easier to be naive and believe the best in people, rather than know the reality. If your inner gut is giving you a lot of doubt about your partner, perhaps you should listen to that voice.

Keep in mind, that some people are desperate to accuse their partner of cheating, regardless of whether it is true or not.

You should never, ever, accuse your partner of cheating just because of a dream. This can lead to the breakup of a healthy relationship.

Possible Solution

If you are worried about your partner cheating on you, then maybe you should re-evaluate the relationship and see if it is something that is worth pursuing. Do you want to be with someone you don’t trust?

You also have to ask yourself why you are not trusting your partner? Are they coming home late after work, with excuses that do not seem real? Is your partner not interested in you anymore?

If you value your relationship, it is important that you talk to your partner and see if you can improve your relationship. Perhaps your dream is telling you that you guys need to start bonding and spending more time together.

Being the Cheater in Your Dream

If you are dreaming that you are the one being unfaithful in your dream it may indicate that you have compromised your own belief system and have not been faithful in a specific area of your life. This area could be your relationship, work, or your own morals that you have not upheld.

Alternatively, your cheating dream could indicate your desire to break free from your routine and do something new. Sometimes relationships can grow stagnant, which cause people to lose their passion. This dream may be indicating that you need to ignite the fire back into your relationship.

The person in your dream that you are cheating with can often give clues to the meaning of the dream. If you are cheating with someone who you have a crush on in real life, it may indicate your desire to be with that person, in spite of being in a relationship. Alternatively, it may indicate that you find particular qualities within that person attractive and want to see them in your current partner.

The Freudian interpretation of this dream would probably indicate that your dream is an expression of your true desire. You want to be sexually free from the constraints that you feel in your current relationship and let loose with your desires.

Conclusion

Cheating dreams are very common among people who are in relationships and do not automatically mean that you have a cheating partner and that you want to cheat. Often these dreams are reflections of our underlying insecurities, and other times these dreams may indicate something more.

If you are in a healthy relationship, there is no reason to panic when you have a cheating dream. Cheating dreams are one of the most common dreams among dreamers, so you can expect to have a few of these dreams over the course of your relationship.

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About Author

Stephen is a self confessed dream junkie that loves all things dream related. He is a writer for Dream Stop and has been working in the field of dreams for the past decade. He believes that the YOU are the only person who can truly understand the meaning of your dreams. You have to look inside your inner thoughts to find the hidden truths in your dream. These interpretations are for entertainment purposes only. Stephen's interpretations should be considered an opinion, not professional advice.

19 Comments

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  13. I having nightmares of my boyfriends ex girlfriends, specifically two of them that he dated a long time ago, Hannah and Katie. We’ve been back together now for almost three years, I’ve know him for almost 10, we dated as young kids and again three years later long distance but he chose Katie over me after she lied about a pregnancy and then an abortion. Three years after that we kind of fell back together after him and a different ex had been together for 3 years, see now the weird thing is that one doesn’t bother me, he hates her and I’m even friends with her little sister. When we got back together she was really petty for months and wouldn’t stop texting him until I told her we would file a restraining order if she didn’t stop. Katie called him and he came inside and told me and that he told her he couldn’t talk, we found out what her problem was,she was very much pregnant with a guys kid that had left her and was having sex dreams of my boyfriend! Now we had just finally gotten pregnant so you can imagine my anger, he didn’t know how to handle it so I did and told her to try and work things out with the dad and it just sounded like hormones. she kept on and would even call under private and hang up when I answered. Eventually she stopped long ago, but I don’t understand why she now is popping up in my dreams along with his ex from when I wasn’t even there,they were teenagers. She bullied me in elementary and jr.high, she was just a nasty person. Well I found out he’s the only other girl he brought to Christmas with his family. Now we have a daughter together that is almost 1 and don’t understand why I would be dreaming of them of all times now! He’s on a business trip and they have been more frequent but I had them randomly before at the end of my pregnancy.

  14. What dose it mean when you are very successfull in somthing you love (baseball was my career and my dream job even though it will probaly never happen) i was welthy i gave her everything she ever wanted or asked for i cooked for her i did everything trying to better her life then my friend in the dream i dont know who in real life came to my house while she was away with a cd and we played it on the tv she was with some guy still i dont know who she said , “Dont worry about Nick(me) baby he is a looser and noone will ever love him” while they were naked on the couch and started having sex then he also came inside her ((sorry for the rated r part)) but that made me feel even worse i was so sad isat there and cryed for like a hour on my couch in my mansion untill i walked upstairs found my gun cabnet and went back to the couch still crying then killed my self witch me killing my self played over roughly three or four times i dident feel mad i felt betrayed and worthless im having a hard time prossessing this figuring out the true meaning.

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